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This is with New York Times chief restaurant critic emeritus and current op-ed columnist, Frank Brunney.

Frank was named op-ed columnist for The New York Times, obviously a very

prestigious job in 2011, and he was the first openly gay writer to be named Op Ed, a columnist

at the Times. He's also a pretty amazing writer. He's written a bunch of books, and a lovely guy.

He's a friend of mine, and I was really excited to get him on the show because

he has a new book out called Where You Go Isn't Who You'll Be, which is really about, you know, kind of the pressure that family's face trying to figure out where their kid is going to go to school. But so much more than that, I think about this obsession that we have culturally with elite colleges and that selective schools

define who you are for the rest of your life. It's a really smart book and he's a really smart guy.

He was nominated for a Pulitzer while writing for the free press. And he also has an incredibly

complex and interesting background fighting for LGBT rights and also talking about his own

struggle with eating, an eating disorder that he had and bulimia he's a really

lovely dude but if you've ever been curious about what it's like to be a restaurant

critic or what it's like to try to get a job on the most prestigious newspaper in the

world you are about to find out.

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