Welcome to our listeners questions. This week I have Giovanna Fletcher. And I can't, I can't wait because this is going to be fun. All right. Okay. Are you ready? Yes. Okay. My partner and I both have demanding jobs and lately it feels like we're just two ships passing in the night. We hardly spend any time together and it's affecting our relationship. Do you have any tips?

Oh, that's really hard, isn't it? I can relate. I can relate. I feel like with Tom,

if we manage to watch something together and our feet touch in the evening, that's a win.

You've done well. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And I also think being aware that you're so busy and that

you're juggling or that you're

drifting is really, really important because then you can do something about it. I think not being

aware of it is the difficult place to be. Could be problematic. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think you just have to

do what you can when you can. Yeah. Don't forget that each other exists. Yeah.

And I think it's so easy to look at other couples out there, whether that's your mates or online and kind of go, oh my gosh, they've got it sorted. No one has it sorted. It's all bullocks. It's all bullocks. It's all bullocks. Total rubbish. No one has it sorted. Yeah. I remember one of my friends said the best thing that Hollywood, like big stars could do for the average woman is to admit how many people they have on their staff. Yes. Nanny. Nanny, driver, cook, housekeeper, accountant to admit how many people it takes to put that perfect life together. Yeah. And also when you are doing all day, I think when you get to the end of the day, you're touched out, you're asked out, you know, when Tom was to engage in a conversation at that time of night, I'm like, I'm done, I've switched, she's switched off. Monof syllables, tea, thank you. Yeah, and I think you have to kind of ride it in a way and realise it's not forever, it's a now thing. So don't panic, It's a now thing. And if you're aware of it,

you can change it. Yeah, and the time does come back around. You know, Jim and I had that when the boys were young. We were tag team literally, one in, one out, night shift, day shift, night shift, day shift. Yeah, for a long time. And then now the kids are all grown, happy days, drop the and we found each other and you like each other still.

Yeah.

I mean sometimes.

My four-year-old has just been diagnosed with autism and I'm struggling drop the grandkids home. And you like each other still. Yeah. I mean sometimes.

My four-year-old has just been diagnosed with autism and I'm struggling to come to terms with his diagnosis. I don't want to tell my friends as I'm scared they will judge him and not want their children to play with him anymore. Should I be honest with them? Yeah. Of course. If they're your friends, for sure. Yeah, and if they judge, then get new friends.

They're not friends.

No, they're not at all.

Absolutely.

I think... Of course. If they're your friends, for sure. Yeah, and if they judge, then get new friends. They're not friends.

No, they're not at all.

Absolutely.

I think, I mean, we always worry about our kids and we want to put them first and we want

everyone to champion them as much as we do.

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