Hi, you're listening to Small Things Often from the Gottman Institute, where we talk you through

research-based tips to help improve your relationships in five minutes or less.

Today's tip is about giving gifts from the heart.

This might sound wild, but you don't actually have to spend money to give your partner an amazing

gift. You can bring them joy with simple gestures that will truly show how much you care.

So, instead of withdrawing from your financial bank account, make a deposit into your partner's

emotional bank account. You'll be doing that each and every time you and your

partner turn towards each other. Ask them how their day was and truly listen to their answer. Find out

what's been stressing them out lately and don't immediately try to problem solve or just be

affectionate and playful and have some fun together. This will fund both of your emotional bank accounts,

and you'll create a cushion for when things get stressful, or there's a conflict.

Or give your partner the gift of wonder.

As an adult, it's easy to lose sight of the things that can be pretty magical,

like making a snow angel, or taking a tour of the lights in your neighborhood.

Share your favorite movie from your childhood and watch it together or hide something for your

partner to find on a treasure hunt. If you're not feeling creative, just pucker up. But make it more

than a little peck on the lips. Give your partner a six-second kiss.

That's a kiss with potential.

Letting a kiss linger can heat up your relationship.

You could also give the gift of affection by hugging your partner.

Do you know their favorite way to be hugged?

What's yours?

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