Getting Underneath Your Need to be Right
ShrinkChicks
Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT
4.9 • 755 Ratings
🗓️ 22 May 2023
⏱️ 45 minutes
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Summary
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the need to be right and why it can be so hard to let this go. They start off the episode by sharing how each of them feels about being right in their relationships and also with one another. They expand on the importance of feeling heard and seen, why it can be easier to let arguments go with some people and not others, where stubbornness can come from, and being right vs. being close. Emmalee and Jen tell us how to work toward getting underneath the need to be right and examining where it might come from. They answer your questions about making mistakes at work, how to navigate the need to be right with a partner, the fear of being wrong and so much more! The episode wraps up with a Dear Em & Jen question about a listener who may be compromising their own growth just to prove a point. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!
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| 0:00.0 | So let me be honest for a second. |
| 0:02.0 | Braves and underwear have always been a pain point for me. |
| 0:05.3 | You know the drill. |
| 0:06.3 | Strap sticking in, bands that never sit quite right, |
| 0:09.8 | underwear that either rolls or rides up. |
| 0:12.4 | I'd get so frustrated shopping for bras and underwear that I kind of gave up. |
| 0:17.2 | I'd add things to my cart online, stare at them, and then just never check out. |
| 0:21.6 | Because in the back of my mind, I figured it'll just be another letdown. |
| 0:25.8 | But recently, I finally took the plunge with skims, and I cannot believe I waited this long. |
| 0:30.0 | I started with a fits everybody collection, and let me tell you, it is like, oh, so this is what it's supposed to feel like. |
| 0:37.1 | The fabric is unreal. Silky, soft, stretching all the right ways, and it somehow manages to feel light but still supportive. |
| 0:45.1 | My absolute favorite piece, the triangle bra. |
| 0:47.9 | I am not exaggerating when I say it is the most comfortable bra I have ever owned. |
| 0:53.3 | Usually the second I walk in the door, |
| 0:55.0 | I cannot wait to take my bra off, but with this one, half the time I forget I'm even wearing it. |
| 0:59.7 | It's supportive without squeezing and it just feels good on my body. And now I'm kind of obsessed. I |
| 1:05.8 | keep looking at the rest of the skim site, making mental wishless and a set of abandoning my cart |
| 1:10.3 | like I used to, |
| 1:11.5 | I'm actually excited to click checkout. It feels like I finally found intemates that actually work |
| 1:16.0 | for me. Pieces I don't have to think about all day because they just feel good. I get it now. |
| 1:21.3 | This is why people rave about skims and why I'm officially hooked. Shop skims fit. Everybody's |
| 1:26.9 | collection at skims.com. |
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