Getting The Love You Want - Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt - Smart Couple Podcast #227
The Jayson Gaddis Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.7 • 998 Ratings
🗓️ 24 January 2019
⏱️ 94 minutes
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Summary
- Why Do Couples Fight? [5:00]
- Expecting Your Partner To Fulfill Your Unmet Childhood Needs [10:00]
- What Does It Take To Love Your Partner More Than Yourself? [19:00]
- The Importance Of Being Present [26:00]
- Applying The Still Face Experiment & Being Present To Adult Interaction [35:00]
- Turning Being Present With Each Other Into A Spiritual Practice [42:00]
- How To Inspire Change In Your Partner [45:00]
- How To Heal Insecure Attachment [50:00]
- Helping Your Partner Recover From Dysregulation [54:00]
- Why Caring For Your Relationship IS Self-Care [55:00]
- Learning What Your Partner Really Needs [1:07:00]
- Harville's Thoughts On Co-Dependency & Co-Regulation [1:15:00]
- When Only One Of You Is Willing To Do The Work Is There Any Point? [1:19:00]
- Changes In The New Version of Getting The Love You Want [1:25:00]
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | If you make it all about them changing they're not going to be as motivated. |
| 0:04.2 | Yeah. I don't know of any person who's ever gotten their partner to change. |
| 0:09.0 | 40 years guys listen to that that that. That's a bold statement. What's up and welcome back to another episode of the relationship schools Smart |
| 0:37.7 | Couple Podcast. I'm your host Jason Gatis and I'm psyched to be here. |
| 0:41.1 | I'm sitting outside of a event that I'm leading with the relationship coaches here at the relationship |
| 0:49.1 | school and doing the intro from here in Boulder, Colorado. |
| 0:54.0 | Okay, this episode is awesome. |
| 0:58.0 | I did an interview recently a live webinar with Harville Henrichs and Helen Hunt who wrote the famous |
| 1:07.0 | relationship book called Getting the Love You Want and they just re-released it and it's very |
| 1:15.0 | updated and it's very good. |
| 1:18.9 | And this interview is all about the two of them digging into that book and I quote some quotes from the book and we |
| 1:27.8 | get into a great conversation and because it was a live webinar we had listeners on live asking them questions. live around a sunset that Helen saw and wanted Harville to see it and there's just some |
| 1:45.4 | really sweet moments that for me as a listener when I was interviewing them it |
| 1:49.0 | just really caught my, caught my heart's attention. So I think you're going to really dig this and pay |
| 1:56.6 | again special attention to how they interact. On the video it's just fascinating watch. I always love watching couples. |
| 2:06.8 | How they include each other, how one of them sometimes talks more than the other. |
| 2:11.2 | One of them chimes in, just how consider it they are. I really want to |
| 2:15.9 | encourage you to go buy their book, getting the love you want. It's on Amazon. The |
| 2:20.6 | link is in the show notes. It's a great book. It's a classic. It's going to help you. They've got some great exercises in there. |
| 2:28.0 | So I just recommend that. Plus, they want to help getting on the New York Times Best Seller list list and I'm like, yeah, let's buy some copies, let's do it. |
| 2:37.6 | Okay, and as always stay tuned to the end for your action step because we like to take action here. |
| 2:44.0 | Speaking of which, the smart couple will be taking a short hiatus, a short break coming |
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