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Compressing more than 60 years of Bible teaching and combining his role as a husband, father, grandfather, and even great grandfather,

Chuck Swindall's seven-part series called Restoring Your Families Foundation has provided timeless wisdom for anyone who's devoted to cultivating healthy relationships in the home.

And today, on Insight for Living, Chuck Swindall presents the seventh and final message in this series.

It includes a personal disclosure on overcoming his own regrets, so be sure to listen to the entire program.

Chuck titled his closing message, Getting Past Yesterday's Filiers.

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For the rest of my time, I want to address Getting Past, all the guilt and all the shame, so we can focus our life on recovery and renewal.

To get there, here is what won't help. Please hear this well. Two things. First, it won't help for you to misinterpret the scriptures.

Basically, here's what I'm saying. Guard against always and never. Guard against making promises airtight.

For example, when the Lord says in Proverbs 22-6, train up a child according to his way, and when he was old, he will not depart from it.

But the verse does not say that will happen in 100% of the cases. Every child will come back to the Lord. No, they won't. Some die in their sin.

Remember, you're dealing with damaged goods, and you yourself are damaged. This makes it complicated. Be careful about the always and never in God's Word.

Rarely do we have the freedom to use those words in his promises.

Proverbs 22-6 never guarantees 100% success in the rearing of our children. But chances are good. If you are faithful to do what you should do in the rearing of your kids, more often than not, good will occur rather than bad, though there are always exceptions.

It doesn't mean it's your fault.

Here's another, something that won't work, is to ignore common sense.

Think. Keep thinking. Think when you marry. Think when you have children. Think when things are going wrong. Think with common sense.

If anybody on this planet needs common sense in spades we do as parents.

So now let me apply these verses to your life and to mine. I'm going to be very vulnerable in doing so.

There are five guidelines I find in Isaiah 58 that will help you and they will help me as we come to terms with a family that lacks harmony that is becoming dysfunctional, if not altogether.

We must begin by humbling ourselves, that's verses 7 and 8. Pride is often the major culprit in family squabbles and family problems.

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