Hey, everyone back to the love and relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Felita,

and I'm so glad you're tuning into these candid conversations about love, sex, dating,

singleness, and marriage, as well as mental and emotional health. For those of you who don't know me,

I'm a licensed professional counselor and author of four books.

I also run the popular relationship advice blog, True Lovedates.com, reaching millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships.

If you've tuned into the podcast before, you know it's a hotline style show, meaning people call in or write in with their questions, and I answer them on this show in short, practical, bite-sized answers.

If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, send it by email or voice memo to Deborah at truelovedates.com or check out my podcast page,

tru-lovedates.com slash love and relationships. And I'll do my best to get it answered on one of the

episodes. So let's get started.

Just because you're a Christian doesn't mean you're healthy.

We tend to assume we're okay until we're not.

But getting healthy is an ongoing process that requires you to stop,

dig deep, and ask yourself some hard questions.

That's why I wrote my new book, Are You Really Okay, using a combination of science, psychology, and faith to help you get real about who you are

and how you're actually doing. God's word tells us to love him with all our heart, soul, mind,

and strength. And in this new book,

we're going to talk through what it looks like to be healthy spiritually, emotionally,

mentally and physically. We're going to learn how to understand and express emotions in healthy and helpful ways. We'll talk about mental and emotional health and how to really break

that stigma that still lingers in the church. We're going to get to the root of what you believe

about yourself, others, and God, and how it's impacting your life. We'll talk about your brain

and what's really happening underneath the surface when you're

struggling. We'll recognize the influences of past trauma and learn how to replace it with

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