Hi everybody. Welcome to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today I want to talk to you about not forgetting the most important thing in dating, which is you.

And this is actually inspired by a review that I got on this podcast from a woman that I did a

little mini coaching call with.

And this is what she wrote.

Amber is the girl in your group of friends who brings it all back down to earth.

Her insight on what's going on in your head is scary spot on. Her knowledge and dating and

relationships is so impressive. She reminds you to not forget about the most important thing.

You. Do yourself a favor, relax for two seconds, and listen to her.

First of all, thank you so much for that review.

And I really love that review because it was exactly what I had been talking about with this woman on the phone.

And so basically, she was in a situation where she asked a guy to be exclusive or yeah just to be exclusive and he said like we're on the same page I really like you I see it going that way

but I still feel like I need to get to know you better and And she was like, so what do I do now?

Like, how do I make it so that he does want a relationship and what can I do?

And basically, I brought it back to like, hold on, before we talk about what you need to do

to attract him and like make it so that he wants something what do you want like what do you

feel okay with do you feel okay with dating this person and sleeping with this person and

investing in this person when they are not ready to be exclusive with you is that that comfortable to you? Does that feel okay to you?

And she was like, no, it doesn't. And so we change the conversation from what do we have to do

to attract him to wait, what are my boundaries, what are my standards, what's important to me, how do I

feel about this, and what am I looking for? And then, of course, you have a conversation with

the person and you say like, hey, this is what I need because we spoke about how when she brought it up to him, it was like more of a

question mark. Like, hey, do you want to be exclusive? Nope. Okay, great. I'll just be here. Same as always,

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