Hello and a massive welcome to Happy Place with me Fern Cotton.

Today, well, it's September, which I'm sorry, no matter how old you get, means that back-to-school feeling.

So after a hopefully brilliantly fun summer, let's get back into a successful work routine without burning ourselves out.

What people don't understand is that where

perfectionism drives us, shame is there. Self care is a form of productivity and you cannot have

productivity without self care, but also you cannot have self care without being productive.

Perfectionism says to us, hey, if you look perfect, work perfect and do it all perfectly,

I can help you avoid ever feeling judgment, blame, criticism or failure.

If someone is overcommitting and saying yes to everything, that's often because they struggle

to assert boundaries. And that's a symptom of anxiety.

You've got to leave and think how much of it was the fact it's a

shit idea, how much of it was that they're just looking for something else. So I had to really

try and objectively judge why somebody had rejected me. We talk about my mental strength from

being an athlete. I feel like since retirement, I do have a lot more struggles mentally.

How much do you trust your intuition around something versus thinking, I'm not professional at this, so somebody else should do things?

Waking up and having a bit of purpose is very important.

Oh my gosh, there's going to be so much good stuff in this episode that I need to remind myself of, quite frankly.

But I hope it will be really useful for you

too, no matter where you're at with your relationship with work and ambition and motivation at

the moment. We're going to start with Grace Beverly. She is going to chat through how to set

boundaries to create a work-life balance that works for you. Brené Brown, one of my heroes, tackling a big old topic,

perfectionism, I need that one. And Alex Partridge is coming to us live from last year's

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