how we can be careful and become aware of what a narcissist's game is.

And so a narcissist is important that we recognize that a narcissist needs to get inside our head.

Right. It's like a disease process. You know, if cancer lived outside of your body, then it couldn't affect you.

Right. If anxiety was, you know, sat on your coffee table, it wouldn't affect you.

If some blood disease lived outside of you or was in the refrigerator, it couldn't affect you.

So narcissists want to infect you. They have to. They have to get inside your head.

They have to get inside your heart, right?

That's where they do the most damage.

It's important to remember that narcissists really, if they were the old,

if a narcissist was the only person on planet Earth, they really couldn't be a narcissist

because a narcissist requires flying monkeys.

A narcissist requires a mirror, a reflection.

Think about the story of narcissists looking into the reflection in the water and falling

in love with his reflection and he didn't want to leave the reflection and so he died there right so if you're thinking about what a narcissist needs a narcissist needs you to reflect back to them some source of narcissistic supply now Now, there are some sort of people think,

oh, narcissistic supply always comes in ego stroking.

No, not necessarily, not always.

Narcissists will get their supply in other ways

by intimidating people, by threatening people,

by being that vindictive person in your family

that just loves to stir the pot, that just loves to, out of the blue, something perturbs them,

and they have to throw a grenade in your lap. So you get a nasty text, or you get a nasty phone call,

or you hear that,

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