What is up my friend Tom Billio here and I have a big question to ask you how would you rate your level of personal discipline on a scale of 1 to 10 if your answer is anything less than a 10 I've got something cool for you

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boring which is what kills most people are possibly scary or even painful now here is the thing achieving huge goals and stretching to reach your potential requires you to do those challenging stressful things

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part of my friend back to today's episode everybody welcome to another episode of impact theory today we are going to be talking all about dealing with disappointment this is something I know a lot about I'm sure all of you know a lot about this but there is a way to get over it and to make sure that we don't waste any time stuck in that period of

disappointment we may need to do a period of morning but that we don't allow ourselves to get stuck there we're able to mourn move past it and get going again

all right first question is how do I stop myself from beating myself up for trying to do something that failed miserably and then continuing to overthink everything about what happened

thank you so much for any advice and assistance that you can provide okay here is how to conceptualize failure and the disappointment that goes along with it once you understand that what the human animal is designed to do is learn then you have to ask yourself if what has made the human animal the most apex of apex predators the world has ever seen the most capable of completely changing its environment

what is it that allows them to learn fast and the answer is failure now the reason that failure is truly useful and I'm not just saying that to make you or myself feel better in fact I wish that it wasn't the way to learn the fastest but the reality is the reason that it works so well is that when you fail you trigger areas of the brain that are focused on memory and focus so you've got the memory size so you can remember this you've got the pain

this does not feel good I do not want to go through this again so you've got that which heightens your emotions which makes you more likely to remember this thing moving forward and then it also narrows your attention so you're really looking at why did this go wrong and when you have this sense of I never want to repeat this and you're looking very closely at why did this go wrong now all the sudden failures because of what it does to your brain and quite frankly because you're in the mix you're trying things and we learn better from doing

than from reading about it or hearing about it so failure suddenly become the most information rich data stream on planet earth heightens your likelihood of remembering and it focuses you in on exactly what's the problem so now even though failing sucks part of what makes it valuable is that it sucks in fact it may suck in order to make it valuable let that sink in that nature went huh when this happens in order for this to be a good example

useful for this animal for this evolutionary creature I need to make sure that it becomes advantageous so that as they make mistakes assuming that they don't get eaten by a lion I want to make sure that they don't put themselves in that position again and so we have to learn from some method and the method that gets us moving taking action trying things feeling the pain focusing that's going to be the thing that we're going to get the most takeaways from so now as you reframe what failure is failure

is not proof that you're a loser failure is the process by which you become better okay failure is not the process that reveals that you're a loser failure is a process by which you become better that is the name of failure so now when you fail why would you beat yourself up over it it's the nature of progress itself there is no way to get better without failing it's the fastest way it is the most important thing is the process of failure

is the most effective way it is necessary you have to do it and by the way for you to have failed at something you showed the courage to try it so instead of wasting time beating yourself up over the fact that something went wrong we're going to say that's the nature of progress we have to try something it's not going to work as well as we wanted to or I may fall flat on my face I may outright embarrass myself and if I let that break me I will fail to learn the lesson

but if I do what nature is compelling me to do and I focus on what went wrong why did this happen because I never want to go through this again you stack enough of those what went wrong I never want to go through this again enough of those together and you actually get good and translating potential into skill set is the name of the game and you will never do that more efficiently than you will through failure and mistakes so allowing yourself to wallow in the game and you will fail the mistakes

to wallow in disappointment, doesn't make any sense.

It's the learning process.

This is what you have to do in order to get good.

So there's no reason to spend a lot of time

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