What's up guys, welcome back to build and today I want to talk about something that I have not spoken about in a while, which is getting good at feeling bad.

So I'll pose you with this question, which is what would your life look like if you got better at feeling bad?

Not if you avoided it, not if you fixed it, you just got better at it.

And I know that sounds really weird, but I want to explain because this approach to feeling bad

is really what has changed my life over the last decade. And it's what has enabled me to reach my

goals and to find, I won't say happiness at all times, but joy,

despite what's going on around me or even how I feel. And the reason that this was top of mind

for me is that, you know, the other day when I was sitting with one of my teammates, you know,

I was talking to him and we're talking about his career and I'm giving him feedback and he was like,

you know, he said something, he's like, well, how was your day? I was like, I dealt with this

and this and this and this happened and this is going to be, you know, a shit thing and then this

over here and, you know, but like, you know being in content to going into one-on-ones,

to stepping on stage, to stepping out of stage and dealing with a department that you had

completely turn over, and you just turned it on for each one. I really thought about that

because I remember in the beginning of my career watching people who could do that and thinking, God,

how do they go into these insanely different meetings and insanely different situations and just look

completely unfazed? I thought that that meant that they didn't feel bad and that they had some

kind of superpower and they just never felt stress and that's the reason

why they were able to show up so amazing in those situations. What's taken me probably seven

years to figure out is that's actually not how anybody ends up showing up well in those situations.

It's not how I do either. It's that I got good at feeling bad. I stopped trying to

resist feeling bad. I stopped trying to get rid of feeling bad. I stopped trying to make hard suck less.

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