Generational trauma expert: How to break unhealthy patterns and become the parent you wish you'd had - with Harriet Shearsmith

The Motherkind Podcast

Parenting, Kids & Family

4.8 • 837 Ratings

🗓️ 16 January 2025

⏱️ 54 minutes

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This week's episode is all about family dynamics - specifically if you have a family member whose behaviour you struggle with. Our guest is Harriet Shearsmith, family dynamic's coach and author of 'Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and become the parent you wish you'd had'. In this powerful episode, Harriet shares her story of how she had an unhealthy relationship with her own mum, and how this has developed in her a desire to support anyone navigating a tricky family relationship. She talks about the signs of an unhealthy relationship, what to do next, how to deal with pushback, and how to find peace with the difficult people in your life. If this episode resonates, we think you'll find so much value in our episode on toxic parents with Josh Connelly. Click Here to order your copy of 'Motherkind: A New way to thrive in a world of endless expectations’ and gain access to a free 60 minute masterclass with Zoe - teaching the core principles of the book. This show is proudly sponsored by Stokke Bioglan is available now instore and online at Holland and Barrett Get 15% off OneSkin with the code MOTHERKIND at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod For a £100 sponsored job credit visit Indeed.com/ Motherkind Continue the Conversation: Join our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day - @zoeblaskey Join our mailing list to receive news, updates and new episode releases Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to Motherkind with me, your host, Zoe Blaski. We are proudly sponsored by Stoker,
0:13.8	and this is the show that's going to give you tools, validation and support for navigating the roller coaster.
0:21.0	That is Modern Motherhood.
0:23.1	This week's episode is about family dynamics, specifically what to do.
0:28.4	If you have a family member whose behaviour you struggle with, my expert this week is Harriet Shearsmith, family dynamics coach and author of a new book, which is brilliant,
0:39.7	called Unfollowing Mum, Break unhealthy patterns and Be the Parent You Wished You'd had.
0:46.2	This is such a powerful episode and in many ways a difficult one because Harriet shares her own
0:53.6	personal story of realizing that she actually had
0:57.2	a very unhealthy relationship with her own mum, which she realised while they were actually living
1:03.2	together. And she tells us what happened next. I was blown away by Harriet's story, but also her knowledge and her deep desire to
1:15.1	support anyone who is navigating a tricky family relationship. Not only does she normalise this,
1:22.9	but she also offers so many pearls of wisdom and advice to empower us to stop ignoring it, just hoping
1:31.0	that it will go away and actually begin to face it. We talk about the signs of an unhealthy
1:38.6	family relationship, how on earth to work out what to do next when you start to see some of those signs what to do if you
1:45.9	get pushback and the guilt that can come up and ultimately how to find peace even with the difficult
1:54.1	people in your life i really think this is one of those episodes that is going to change many people's lives.
2:02.4	I also think it's an episode that's going to get shared a lot. So if you know someone in your
2:07.1	circle who is struggling with this or has struggled with it, please do share this episode.
2:12.7	Be that mother in your community, in your world, who is sharing experts like Harriet, sharing the solution and
2:19.1	offering hope. Here it is. I hope you love it. A quick word from our headline sponsor,
2:28.8	Stoker. And today I want to tell you about the incredible new Yo-Yo-3. I'm lucky enough to have one,
2:34.0	and it is amazing. And even when it gets colder, the yo-yo-3. I'm lucky enough to have one and it is amazing.
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