Gary & The Lying Physical Abuser | Domestic Violence

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Relationships, Education, True Crime, Society & Culture, Self-improvement

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🗓️ 30 June 2025

⏱️ 79 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Gary about his marriage to a lying physical abuser. Gary met his future wife at university. They were quickly attached at the hip and eventually moved countries together when school finished. However, red flags were already popping up. The need for control, anorexia, lying, her family, jealousy, and her need for an identity. It's a story of physical abuse, isolation, insecurity, control, stalking, hidden cameras, in-laws, lies, anorexia, blame, kids, jealousy, neglect, withholding, identity, and divorce. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Gary,
0:06.8	and Gary was married to a lying physical abuser.
0:10.2	It's a story of isolation, insecurity, anorexia, control, and divorce.
0:35.6	Music and divorce. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone.
0:40.4	I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have Gary.
0:45.4	How are you?
0:47.2	I'm doing great.
0:48.4	Thank you for having me.
0:50.4	Well, thank you for being here, and if you want to be a guest like Gary is today, please do go to our website at narsesistapocalypse.com and click on the guest form at the top of the page. There you can read all of our instructions and please read them all. And either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill out our guest form and press the submit button and please do send it in
1:13.2	the format that we ask for. And we do have a content warning for this episode as we do discuss
1:19.0	physical abuse in this episode. So that is your content warning for today. And today you're going to hear
1:24.8	Gary's story and Gary was married to someone who eventually
1:27.7	became anorexic. And besides the issues that were already there, on top of everything, Gary had to
1:33.3	be compassionate with supporting his partner while also dealing with some red flags, which would all
1:39.3	just build over time. We hear a lot on the show. If we can just get through this, things will get better.
1:46.3	And Gary was constantly in a situation where things he thought might get better just never
1:52.3	happened. There'd be proof for a bit before things went back to how they were. So it's not easy
1:57.9	to leave when that is happening. So a big thank you to Gary for being here with us
2:02.5	today. And now I'm going to get out of my way and your way. Gary, the floor is now yours.
2:10.9	So yeah, my childhood, I think can be explained as pretty healthy. I was a fortunate kid where I had both parents around. I love
2:20.3	them both. They loved me both. I really have no trauma to speak of. I think I had the standard
2:25.0	challenges that any kid would have of being bullied and not getting the girl or for those in the
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