Hi, I'm Zibi Owens, and you're listening to Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books.

This episode has been sponsored by Book Hampton. As the premier independent bookstore in the Hamptons,

Bookhampton has a highly curated selection of books for readers of all ages, unique, one-of-a-kind gifts, and exciting author events. Browse their fabulous staff suggestions online at Bookhampton.com. Today I'm excited to be talking to Gary John Bishop, who is the best-selling author of, I can't even say this, if there are kids around, so make sure their ears are closed. But it's called Unfuck Yourself. Get out of your head and into your life.

Gary John Bishop runs Unfuck Nation, which includes a blog called the Asterix and online classes.

He is one of the leading personal development experts in the industry.

Originally from Scotland, he now lives in the U.S. with his wife and three children.

Oh, hi, Gary.

It's Zibby Owens for Moms, don't have time to read books. Hi, how are you? Good. How are you? Thanks for letting me push this back a little. Sure, no problem. And I'm great. Good. So your book was fantastic. I feel totally empowered having read it, although I had to kind of...

Thank you.

I had to kind of hide the title from my kids. Yeah, of course. My daughter was like, Mom, what are you reading? I know the feeling. I've got a 13-year-old, a 6-year-old, and a 4-year-old. So it's a little bit of a dance in my house when it comes to the title of the book. Wow. I think actually there were a lot of

ways that this book can help parents. One of the ways I thought it really helped is I feel like there's

a lot of self-doubt in the art of parenting itself. You know, am I doing this right? Is this the

right punishment? Should I, you know, should I go in or leave her alone for a timeout? All these things. And in the book,

you say, we have about 50,000 thoughts in a single day. So I'm wondering, what would you, what would

your advice be for how do I, you know, channel the doubts and give myself more confidence as a parent?

Yeah, I think I'm able to answer this both from the perspective of what I do and from the

perspective of being a dad. One of the first things that I really had to give up and being a parent

was that I knew what I was doing. And really like, you know, because mostly people parent

as a reflection of the parents or in some kind of reaction to the parents.

So it's kind of like, you're either going to deal like just like your mom or totally not,

like your mom or your dad or whatever.

So people are invariably either trying to recreate or react to the childhood they had.

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