Hello, I'm Fern Cotton and this is Happy Place, the show that dissects what we think we know

about ourselves and the world around us. Today I'm chatting to Gabel Matte.

Since the 1930s the gender ratio of multiples crosses has been increasing. What I mean is

that it used to be almost equal, not three and a half women to every man. This is not a genetic

condition because genes don't change in a population over a few decades. That hasn't

changed more for one gender than the other. What is it? It's stress. So women have always

said they're all of being emotional shock absorbers of their families, including their spouses.

So that's a gender role not by the children determined but dictated by a certain patriarchy

of you of women's position.

Gabel has over 20 years of experience as a doctor in family practice and palliative care,

as well as a decade of working with patients challenged by mental illness and drug addiction.

Now he combines everything he's seen in his talks and books about trauma, childhood development,

stress and its relationship with physical illness. I found hearing about that relationship

between mental stress and physical outcomes, particularly mind blowing, when Gabel came

around to my house at the end of the year. There's also a lot in here about understanding

that the political systems we live in are having a huge impact on our mental health. On

the one hand, that can maybe make us feel a bit hopeless, but I actually think it's

useful to recognise so that we can go, oh, it's not just me. I'm not meant to be able

to function properly as a human under these conditions. It's not that I'm somehow getting

it wrong when everybody else is able to cope. I really think you're going to love this

chat.

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