I had a really good friend of mine. I went to lunch and he said, I don't know who this guy is here in front of me

And he goes, let me ask you a question honestly right now. What are you grateful for and at the lunch

I said nothing brother. There's nothing good in my life right now

As I am mouthing these words two people walked in with an older man both of them clearly were fighting cancer somehow

Both had lost their hair one of the ladies had a bonnet on and they were barely moving in both walked by our

Table and gave me the most warm greeting the warmest smile as a stranger and he goes that's pretty frickin pathetic

You can't find anything in your life to be grateful for right now

There's this thing people think that like I'll be happy when once I get like this big amazing home or once I get this

Car or once I get this

Relationship or an amount of money then I'll allow myself some happiness the problem is the finish line always moves

You never arrive there right the other part is people think well if I enjoy myself now

I'm gonna lose my drive in other words if I can just wire myself with enough pain all the time

I won't lose my driver ambition the truth is there's no correlation between the two at all

There's no relationship between you feeling complete pain all the time and losing drive

And so I talk about living in a state of blissful dissatisfaction and really the best example though

Be like if you've ever I love a good meal right you know if I bite into a great piece of steak if you're a steak eater like I am

You take that first bite. It's like complete bliss right there's no correlation between how great that tastes

And then you're lack of desire for the next bite in fact that bliss causes you to want more of it

And so the more we can be into a reward ourselves with bliss

We're not gonna lose our dissatisfaction. We're not gonna we're not gonna lose that and so for me our brains

There's dopamine hit you get when you do something successful if you constantly cheat yourself out of that hit right biomechanically in your body

Lesson lessen the future where you want to achieve the next level the next dream the next step

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