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Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

From Toxic to Soulmates w/ Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan

Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

Violet Benson

Ted Talks, Self Help, Health & Fitness, Millenials, Gen Z, Toxic, Healing, Education, Zodiac Signs, Kim Kardashian, Mental Health Expert, Violetta Benson, #Pop Culture, Violet Benson, Call Her Daddy, Celebrities, Celebrity News, Comedy Podcast, Single, Expert, Personal Growth, Jewish, Manifesting, Violetta, Personal Journals, Mental Health, Self Love, Breakups, Francesca Farago, Lgbtq, Daddy Issues, Love And Relationships, Dating Advice, Stand Up Comedy, Dating And Relationships, Adulting, Self Improvement, 30s, Lifestyle, Society & Culture, Life Coach, Dating, Comedy, Self-improvement, Female Empowerment, Jay Shetty, Relationships, Being 30, Influencer, Astrology, Creator

4.84.1K Ratings

🗓️ 24 August 2023

⏱️ 73 minutes

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Summary

Have you considered the difference between what people want versus what they truly need in relationships, and how does this understanding impact your approach to forming connections? This introspective exploration can have a profound influence on how you approach building meaningful bonds. 

Today's guest is Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan. Figs is the creator of the Empathi method and the certification process for Empathi coaches. His life’s mission is to help couples feel more connected.

Violetta and Figs unveil the impact of childhood experiences on your ability to love and how self-sabotaging patterns might be holding you back and decode your attachment style and learn how taking responsibility for your actions and emotions can transform your connections. Whether you're seeking self-growth or hoping to form healthier bonds, don't miss out on this empowering conversation that peels back the layers of love, relationships, and healing.   


What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 02:14 Are you in a toxic relationship?
  • 04:15 What can we do about a toxic partner?
  • 06:23 When you’re in a threatened vulnerable state
  • 08:02 Are you in a system together?
  • 13:36 When in your reality your partner is hurting you
  • 16:14 How childhood experiences affect our ability to love
  • 17:56 Self-sabotaging patterns 
  • 19:49 The natural fear to fall in love
  • 23:31 Struggling to open up 
  • 25:25 Know what’s your attachment style
  • 29:18 Taking responsibility of our actions and emotions
  • 33:21 Both need to show up for each other
  • 36:28 Foster empathy for yourself and others
  • 42:31 The gray area on first dates
  • 47:36 Here’s what you should focus on when dating
  • 50:07 Finding healing through forming relationships
  • 55:31 What is a co-dependent relationship?
  • 01:00:48 Doing self work to not attract what you lack
  • 01:04:19 Glorification of people protecting themselves from getting hurt
  • 01:07:29 What people really need is not what they want


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0:00.0

So at some point when I say get out of your own way, we want to take a really deep examination

0:07.2

of the ways you protect yourself, say thank you for them.

0:10.9

You probably need them back in the schoolyard or whatever, with your parents, whatever.

0:16.0

But right now, as an adult, it's probably getting in the way of you helping make love and

0:21.8

relationship work.

0:23.6

The following podcast is a deer media production.

0:26.4

It's file events in your favorite meme queen in the big sit you didn't ask for, but

0:30.8

see you to welcome to almost adulting.

0:34.6

Almost adulting.

0:36.3

Almost adulting.

0:39.0

Are you ready?

0:40.5

Hi, bestsees and welcome to a brand new, almost adulting.

0:43.8

The largest self-love podcast and movement, your number one destination for personal growth

0:48.4

and mental health.

0:49.6

I am your host and your big sister, Vialetta.

0:53.2

And today, my special guest, I have him go by figs.

0:57.2

He has a full name that he'll share in a second, which is harder for me to pronounce.

1:01.6

He is a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified and emotionally focused therapy

1:07.6

for couples through counseling for individual and couples.

1:10.7

You guys will be able to check out his website after we finish the interview, which is empathy.

1:15.8

Calm with an eye empathy with an eye.

1:18.2

And so you basically help people work out how to love better, understand each other better,

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