From Self-Judgment to Self-Compassion: A Guide to Emotional Resilience w/Nate and Marla Christensen

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 14 November 2024

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

Tony welcomes guests Nate and Marla Christensen to discuss the concept of self-compassion. Nate is an ALPC, and Marla is an ALPC and AMFT. They delve into the groundbreaking research of Kristen Neff, who has spent 20 years studying the benefits of self-compassion, including its effects on PTSD, anxiety, depression, and overall mental health. The episode explores the three main components of self-compassion—mindfulness, self-kindness, and common humanity—and addresses common misconceptions such as self-compassion being viewed as weakness, self-indulgence, or selfishness. They share personal insights and clinical experiences, making a compelling case for incorporating self-compassion into daily life and therapy. Nate and Marla are both currently working under Tony's license, and both currently have openings in their schedule. To reach Nate, email him at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]), and for Marla, email [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]), or you can contact them through Tony at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). You can view Nate and Marla's episode on LeadingSaints.org here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=0f9P-Xk5ZaE (https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=0f9P-Xk5ZaE)00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview02:46 Guest Introduction: Nate and Marla Christensen02:53 Discussing Self-Compassion03:45 Nate and Marla's Professional Background08:16 The Importance of Self-Compassion14:25 Common Misconceptions About Self-Compassion17:04 Scientific Insights on Self-Compassion25:25 Historical Context and Recent Research27:27 Exploring Self-Compassion28:32 Understanding Mindfulness30:59 Practicing Self-Kindness32:52 Embracing Common Humanity34:58 Motivation Through Self-Compassion35:53 Challenges in Self-Compassion39:14 Cultural Perspectives on Compassion41:11 Reparenting and Emotional Maturity45:52 Final Thoughts and Reflections

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0:00.0	Welcome to the virtual couch.
0:04.0	Please take a seat.
0:06.0	For pillars, emotional majority, and for pillars, what a tree.
0:13.0	You're not broken.
0:15.0	You're a human, so check that out.
0:18.0	You don't know.
0:19.0	Welcome to episode 431 of The Virtual Couch.
0:22.1	I'm your host, Tony Overbay.
0:23.0	I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist.
0:25.3	And today, I welcome Nate and Marla Christensen on to the virtual couch.
0:30.0	And we are going to talk about the concept of self-compassion.
0:33.9	And you're going to probably hear a lot more from me about the topic of self-compassion
0:38.4	because there's a wonderful researcher named Kristen Neff, who has done 20 years of research now.
0:45.3	And we're going to talk about it today on the podcast.
0:47.7	But the data is there that says actually being nice to yourself will alleviate and eliminate so many problems that besie us on a daily
0:56.2	basis. And what I love so much about this is it really fits in nicely with my favorite therapeutic
1:01.8	modality in the world, acceptance and commitment therapy, which starts from a place of
1:05.8	that you are not broken, you are human, you're the only you that has ever walked on the face of the
1:11.0	earth. So you think and feel the way you do because you do. So I think that lends nicely to giving
1:17.2	yourself a lot of grace and having compassion on not being perfect and not knowing what you don't know.
1:24.8	So when people really do say to you things like, well, I don't like
1:28.0	that you did that. That's okay because maybe I'm not even a big fan of it either. But it's the first
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