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The One You Feed

From Chaos to Calm: Why Your Environment Shapes Your Habits and Happiness with Gretchen Rubin

The One You Feed

Eric Zimmer, The One You Feed

Buddhism, Education, Self-improvement, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.62.5K Ratings

🗓️ 9 January 2026

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Gretchen Rubin shares how to go from chaos to calm and why your environment shapes your habits and happiness. She explores how organizing and decluttering physical spaces can boost mental clarity and emotional well-being. Gretchen also shares practical strategies for habit change, discusses individual differences in preferences for order, and explains how small environmental tweaks can make positive behaviors easier. The conversation also covers managing possessions, letting go of outdated identities, and making intentional life choices. Exciting News!!!Coming in March 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways The relationship between outer order (organization and decluttering) and inner calm (mental and emotional well-being). The impact of small environmental changes on habits, mood, and productivity. The concept of “feeding the good wolf” from the parable of two wolves, emphasizing intentional living. The significance of setting intentions or themes for the new year, such as choosing a “word of the year.” The role of “ignition costs” in habit formation and how reducing friction can facilitate positive behaviors. The varying responses individuals have to clutter and organization, including “clutter blind” individuals and “abundance lovers.” The importance of monitoring habits and recognizing progress to encourage continued growth. Strategies for managing possessions and making decisions about what to keep or discard. The psychological challenges of letting go of items tied to past identities or aspirations. The concept of “choosing the bigger life” as a decision-making framework to guide intentional choices. For full show notes,⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠ Connect with the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoyed this conversation with Gretchen Rubin, check out these other episodes: Living Skillfully with Gretchen Rubin (2020) Designing a Life That Supports You: Presence, Beauty, and the Power of Environment with Nate Berkus By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Hungry Root⁠: For a limited time, get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to www.hungryroot.com/feed  and use code FEED. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aura Frames⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: For a limited time, save on the perfect gift by visiting ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AuraFrames.com /FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠to get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames – named #1 by Wirecutter –  by using promo code FEED at checkout. This deal is exclusive to listeners, and frames sell out fast,  so order yours now to get it in time for the holidays! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Uncommon Goods ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠has something for everyone – you’ll find thousands of new gift ideas that you won’t find anywhere else, and you’ll be supporting artists and small, independent businesses. To get 15% off your next gift, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UNCOMMONGOODS.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Post your job for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠linkedin.com/oneyoufeed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Terms and conditions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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there's kind of the energy of starting. And so maybe you start and then you stop and you think,

0:04.4

well, that's okay if I stop because I'll just start again and I found it really easy to start,

0:08.4

but starting over is harder than starting the first time.

0:19.6

Welcome to the one you feed. Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have. Quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true. And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear.

0:41.0

We see what we don't have instead of what we do.

0:43.9

We think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit.

0:47.3

But it's not just about thinking.

0:49.3

Our actions matter.

0:50.8

It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living. This podcast

0:56.2

is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, how they feed their good

1:01.5

wolf. I'm in a studio this week recording my audiobook, and I've been carrying this bag back and forth

1:09.9

with my food, clothes, lozenges,

1:13.1

tea, and as the week has gone on, the bag has gotten messier, to the point that this morning

1:18.9

it's stressing me out. This episode is with Gretchen Rubin about what she calls outer order

1:25.0

inner calm, and why getting organized isn't a personality test. There's no

1:30.4

moral scorecard here. It's about noticing what helps you feel steady and what quietly drains you.

1:37.5

We talk about how small changes in your surroundings can lower stress and make good habits easier,

1:44.0

not through willpower, but by reducing

1:46.5

friction. Gretchen has a term for this, ignition costs, those tiny barriers that stop us before we

1:54.1

even start. If you've been trying to change something, your routines, your focus, your mood,

1:59.7

this episode is a practical reminder that

2:03.2

sometimes the fastest way forward is to change what's around you. I'm Eric Zimmer and this

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