Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

So I'm doing doing this episode while on daddy duty. So if you hear cartoons and such in the background.

It is Logan on her iPad.

And as I say this, I have this fear

that I will be judged because my two and a half year old is in front of a screen and I got to say

until you have a child because I was also one to judge I was the guy like in the airport

when the kids are loud or at the grocery store you know toddlers having a tantrum I remember I was the guy that was judgmental I would think it was the

parent's fault I would think why don't you control your child and now as a parent I now see the other side I now experience the other

side and I will definitely check any judgment.

I mean unless the parent is being, you know, obviously abusive or something that is endangering the child,

I have no judgment when it comes to parents because parenting is

multi-layered, unique to the parents, each parent and you know their circumstances, their

goals, their definitions, their tools, and all of that.

Anyway, this episode isn't about parenting.

This episode is about friendship because Vanessa and I just went to Ida Wild, this little quiet town up in the mountains here in California.

It's like right above Palm Springs and we have a little Airbnb mountain house and we this was the first time we invited friends so we invited about six people and

Here's my takeaway one

density is greater than quantity.

So what I mean by that is,

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