Friendship Under Fire: Episode 919
The Boundless Show
Focus on the Family
4.7 • 772 Ratings
🗓️ 11 September 2025
⏱️ 56 minutes
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Summary
Standing for your convictions without losing a relationship, plus hope for alcohol addiction, and should non-drinkers only date other non-drinkers?
Featured musical artist: About a Mile
Roundtable: When Friendship Tests Your Faith
As Christians, we’re called to be lights in a dark world. But when you have to stand up for truth among friends and colleagues who challenge your beliefs, how do you stay strong? What’s the motivation and means of making and growing friendships with those who are apathetic or hostile to biblical truth about life, sexuality — even the gospel itself? Guests Glenn and Kat have found a way to keep their faith front and center in friendships with non-Christians. You’re guaranteed to find their stories inspiring and challenging as you ponder how to love God and love others without selling out.
Culture: Straight Talk About Booze
Dr. Trent Langhofer has long been a licensed therapist and addiction recovery counselor — after years of being an addict himself. He knows the temptation that drugs and alcohol present in a culture where isolation, busyness, comparison and anxiety have a hold. So what’s the straight story on booze? What’s OK and what’s too much? Do your reasons for drinking matter? What about social drinking? How do you know you have a problem, and what’s the first step to doing something about it? Trent joins us to dole out facts, and more importantly, offer hope and healing steps for those ready to take a new look at their relationship with alcohol.
Love Life Sober: A 40-Day Alcohol Fast to Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health, and Renew Your Mind
Article: The Latest Buzz Around Christians and Alcohol
Inbox: Can You Ask Your Date Not to Drink?
As a teetotaler, she’s wondering if she should only date guys who don’t drink. Or if they do, can she ask them to stop? Pastor Mark Bates weighs in.
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| 0:00.0 | God is at work and he's calling his people to rise in truth. Truth Rising is a powerful new documentary from Focus on the Family and the Colson Center. See how ordinary Christians choose courage in a culture that needs truth. Watch Truth Rising today and find out how you can become an agent of restoration and hope. |
| 0:24.1 | Visit truthrising.com today. |
| 0:26.9 | That's truthrising.com. |
| 0:30.1 | Bowenless shows. |
| 0:58.0 | Thank you. Well, hey everyone. Welcome to this week's episode of The Boundless Show. This is Lisa Anderson here with you, and we are squarely into September. And some of you are grateful for that. So that's great. We do love September. It's a good month. I'm going to give it that. So that said, |
| 1:03.0 | here's a little bit of what is coming up on the show for our inbox. A listener asked, |
| 1:08.1 | should I date guys who don't drink or is it okay to date them and ask them to stop drinking? |
| 1:13.1 | One of our pastor friends, Mark Bates, is here in the studio to answer that question. |
| 1:19.6 | And then for our culture segment, Dr. Trent Langhofer is back to talk about how to practice self-control with alcohol use and just some of the elements of addiction. |
| 1:24.7 | You are wondering why we are talking so much about booze. It is because this week we are |
| 1:29.5 | celebrating on September 14th National Sober Day. And so a great conversation, especially as we are |
| 1:36.3 | with Gen Z. They're moving towards sobriety more even than millennials. And it's just a conversation |
| 1:42.6 | we're all having. What does this look like? |
| 1:44.4 | Especially when family of origin stuff comes into play and maybe social context. So a good conversation |
| 1:51.0 | there. Well, here we are for our roundtable. We are actually, this is also a listener's |
| 1:56.9 | suggestion to have this conversation about how do you not, quote, ruin your relationship with |
| 2:04.0 | unbelievers as you are befriending them, as they're your neighbors, as you maybe interact with |
| 2:09.7 | them in the workplace? Can you say you're a Christian? Can you have even a deep friendship with |
| 2:15.1 | folks who don't claim Christ, especially when maybe some issues |
| 2:18.9 | can get kind of contentious. So we have at the table, my dear friend, Kat Hegeman. Kat, good to have you |
| 2:24.7 | here. Good to be here. It's so fun. And Glenn Stanton is back with us. Glenn, good to have you. |
| 2:30.2 | You're also my friend. |
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