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Hello, and welcome back to chutzpah, real life lived better, where each week we apply Jewish tradition and a little bit of Jan Brady's FOMO to answer a letter sent by you, the listener, about an issue that is live in your life.

I'm Rabbi Shira Stutman.

And I'm Hannah Rosen.

Hey, Hannah.

So we're recording on a Friday.

What are you doing for Shabbat this weekend?

My son has invited a couple of friends over, and so we're going to eat some food.

That's about as much as I got for you. You know, when a rabbi asks you, what are you doing for Shabbat? You know that it's like it makes everyone nervous. Like this is a test and I've got to be doing the right thing for Shabbat. And I can't be like, oh, I'm going to like a pork barbecue place because the rabbi will judge me. So it's loaded. By the way, we rabbis actually spend time thinking about that. So when we see someone in services, we will never say, oh, my God, I haven't seen you in a while. Even though there's no judgment there. It's just like literally, I haven't seen you. You always have to say, oh, it's so nice to see you, but sometimes people don't like that because even that implies something. So you just have to say, hey, what's up? Hey, what's up? It actually is a thing. And then in their heads, they're like, oh, my God, she doesn't even notice that I haven't been here in a long time. She doesn't care about me.

I have just gotten used to the fact that I am just a projection for other people's Jewish lived experiences.

Yes, you are.

That's what's sad.

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