FRANK SCHWARTZ | Not Your Fault, But Your Responsibility
Order of Man
Ryan Michler
4.8 • 9.1K Ratings
🗓️ 24 February 2026
⏱️ 65 minutes
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Summary
There are things that happened to you that weren't your fault. Maybe your dad wasn't there. Maybe no one modeled strength, discipline, or direction. Maybe you were handed confusion instead of clarity and drift instead of standards. But while it may not have been your fault, it is your responsibility. And the moment you understand that is the moment your life begins to change.
Today, my guest Frank Schwartz (Dark Helmet in the F3 Community, and I talk about what it means to stop blaming, stop guessing, and start leading. We'll unpack why so many men feel disconnected from purpose, how to build direction through fitness, fellowship, and faith, and why your community needs you to set the standard - not apologize for it. This isn't about shame. It's about ownership. And ownership is where power begins.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Time Passing & Becoming Grandfathers
01:32 - 100,000 Men & What They're Really Struggling With
02:39 - The Crisis of Purpose in Modern Men
05:01 - Why Brotherhood Changes Everything
06:21 - Leadership Without Pretending You Have It All Figured Out
09:59 - "It's Your Dad's Fault… Now It's Your Responsibility."
11:12 - Fitness as the Tool for Fellowship
14:16 - The Standard: Why Men Must Assimilate, Not Soften It
18:18 - Nice vs. Kind: The Truth About Real Love
20:23 - Candor: Telling Hard Truths & Demanding Them Back
23:58 - Nothing Gets Better Until Men Get Better
38:03 - A Battle to Fight: Turning Pain into Purpose
41:52 - Becoming a Higher Agency Man
44:44 - Changing Your Thinking & Building Momentum
47:47 - From "Can't Do" to "Can't Not Do"
49:31 - The Return to Virtuous Masculinity
52:24 - Why Men Need Tribe, Not Just Information
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| 0:00.0 | There are things that happened to you guys that were flat out not your fault. Maybe your dad wasn't |
| 0:05.7 | around. Maybe nobody modeled strength or discipline or guidance and direction. You might have been |
| 0:12.8 | handed confusion instead of clarity and drifting instead of the standards that we as men ought to set. |
| 0:19.8 | But while it may not have been your fault |
| 0:22.5 | that you experience these things as a boy and a young man, it is now your responsibility. At some |
| 0:28.7 | point, our excuses expire and we need to take responsibility of improving our lives. And the moment |
| 0:34.5 | that you and I and every man listening to this understands that |
| 0:37.8 | is the moment that our lives begin to change. Today, my guest, Frank Schwartz and I, he often |
| 0:44.2 | goes by Dark Helmet in the F3 community, talk about what it means to stop blaming other people |
| 0:50.7 | and external circumstances, stop guessing about how to improve your life and improve other |
| 0:56.6 | people's lives and actually start leading yourself and your people. We unpack why so many men |
| 1:03.5 | feel disconnected from their purpose, if they even have one at all, how to build direction |
| 1:09.8 | through the act of physical fitness |
| 1:12.1 | and fellowship with other men and faith in a higher power and why your community needs |
| 1:18.3 | you to set the standard, not apologize for it like much of culture would have you do. |
| 1:24.2 | Guys, this is not about shame. It's about ownership. And once you learn to take ownership, |
| 1:30.1 | that is where your power begins. You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your |
| 1:35.3 | fears and boldly chart your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time, |
| 1:41.2 | every time. You are not easily deterred defeated rugged resilient strong this is your |
| 1:47.7 | life this is who you are this is who you will become at the end of the day and after all is said and |
| 1:53.8 | done you can call yourself a man gentlemen welcome to the order of man podcast i am ryan Mickler. We are on a mission to reclaim and restore masculinity. |
| 2:06.3 | We next week will be celebrating 11 years of doing this work. And I cannot be more excited about how far we've come and how many men, literally millions of men at this point, |
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