Former No.1 Pick-Up Artist: “We’re Wired to Cheat After 7 Years”, “I Was In A Relationship With My Mum”, The True Danger Of Porn: Neil Strauss

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

FlightStory

Society & Culture, Business, Education

4.6 • 13.2K Ratings

🗓️ 13 November 2023

⏱️ 72 minutes

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What can the former world’s best pick up artist and now recovered sex addict teach you about love? In this new episode Steven sits down with 10x New York Times bestselling author, Neil Strauss. Neil Strauss is a former music critic, cultural reporter and ghostwriter, he is best known for his books, ‘The Game’ and ‘Rules Of The Game’ which documented the secret world of pickup artists. In this conversation Neil and Steven discuss topics, such as: How he went to rehab to overcome sex addiction His emotional evolution How he redefined his idea of love Dealing with a toxic relationship with a parent The reasons people have commitment issues Why dating is so hard Three steps for healing trauma How we are wired to cheat after 7 years in a relationship Why marriage is now a tick box exercise How to attract a perfect partner Why all relationship issues are historical The dangers of masturbation and porn What he learned as Kevin Hart’s ghostwriter The one attribute that made Kevin Hart a success Kevin Hart’s key to resistance How to overcome fear of abandonment Why your childhood is the reason behind your relationship problems The 5 things men need to do to find love How to break out of a toxic dating cycle Why checking a partners phone is cheating Living in a separate world when you cheat You can purchase Neil’s most recent book, ‘The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships’, here: https://amzn.to/3u9gm17 You can purchase Neil's book, 'The Game: Undercover in the Secret Society of Pickup Artists', here: https://amzn.to/3udYx13 Follow Neil: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QAzZ9I Twitter: https://bit.ly/3MEH0FA If you enjoyed this episode, I recommend you check out my most recent conversation with Professor Scott Galloway, which you can find here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KRxhnSkgxtk Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsb My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now: https://smarturl.it/DOACbook Follow me: Instagram: http://bit.ly/3nIkGAZ Twitter: http://bit.ly/3ztHuHm Linkedin: https://bit.ly/41Fl95Q Telegram: http://bit.ly/3nJYxST Sponsors: Huel: https://g2ul0.app.link/G4RjcdKNKsb British Airways: https://www.britishairways.com/en-gb/offers/sale Uber One: https://www.uber.com/gb/en/u/uber-one/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	This is certainly an interesting topic.
0:02.0	Is it okay to ever to check your partner's phone?
0:05.0	It's a form of cheating.
0:06.0	Here's what's interesting.
0:07.0	I found that...
0:08.0	Neil Strauss, the former world's greatest hiccup artist.
0:11.0	Best-selling author, he opens up about cheating, monogamy, whose work is insightful and controversial.
0:15.5	Do you think it's natural to be faithful to one person?
0:17.9	In my research, the most evolutionary argument that made the most sense was that were wired to cheat after about seven years.
0:24.2	That said, I realized that all relationship issues are historical.
0:27.7	For example, I heard someone I loved, offer a sexual experience that wasn't that great.
0:31.3	Went to sex addiction rehab rehab and then the therapist said
0:33.2	the reason you've never been in a healthy relationship. It's because your mother
0:36.5	wants to be in a relationship with you. My mom never proved a single person I dated.
0:40.0	When I wanted to live with my girlfriend, my mom cut me off.
0:42.8	She'd come in my room and tell me about how horrible my dad was.
0:45.3	I was the only one who understood her.
0:46.5	So you grew up trapped.
0:48.4	We call that emotional incest.
0:50.2	And then what happens as soon as you're in a relationship
0:52.1	you want to escape.
0:52.8	Having that outlet of cheating or drugs means we're not just trapped with this one person.
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