Forgiving the Unforgivable
Wonder Cabinet
Wonder Cabinet Productions
4.8 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 21 May 2017
⏱️ 52 minutes
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Summary
Are there certain acts, certain people who are beyond forgiveness? When you’re hurt and the only way out of toxic bitterness and resentment is to let go, how do you summon the resolve to reach out to the person who hurt you most? This hour, the keys to living a more forgiving life. Reconciling With My Rapist; How Does It Feel To Forgive?; The Four Key Steps To Forgiveness; Making Peace With My Father, With Help From Dante; Hari Kunzru on American Guilt.
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| 0:00.0 | It's to the best of our knowledge. I'm Anne's Train Champs. |
| 0:05.0 | Could you forgive the one person who hurt you most? |
| 0:11.0 | I'd done my best to outrun my past. |
| 0:14.0 | I had filled my schedule around the clock to never have to dwell on what had happened to me. |
| 0:26.6 | Journalist Thoris Elva, and a word of warning, this story deals with sexual violence. |
| 0:35.6 | One day, I just had a fight with a loved one, and I stormed out of the door in tears, and I drove to a cafe. |
| 0:43.9 | And I sat down and I pulled out a notebook. |
| 0:46.1 | I wanted to doodle in it to calm my nerves. |
| 0:52.6 | And to my surprise, out of the panstreamed this letter that broke this silence. |
| 0:56.4 | And it was a detailed account of what had happened to me, |
| 0:59.6 | what Tom was responsible for doing to me. |
| 1:02.4 | And I expected a lot of outcomes. |
| 1:08.1 | The only thing that I didn't expect was the reply that I then got. |
| 1:17.6 | I distinctly remember being on night shift at a drug rehabilitation service. |
| 1:22.6 | There was a certain chill when seeing Thoughttitis's name in my inbox. |
| 1:31.3 | It was a chronological detailing of that night and what thought this had experienced and what I had subjected her to. |
| 1:34.3 | The first effect of that email was to shatter a definition I had in my mind of that night of being sex. |
| 1:42.3 | I had not identified what I did as rape. It was. of that night of being sex. |
| 1:47.0 | I had not identified what I did as rape. It was a horror. |
| 1:50.0 | So my response was to reply and say, |
| 1:54.0 | where to from here? |
| 1:58.0 | Tom Stranger and Thoris Elva met when they were teenagers. |
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