Foreplay Replay - Mailbag! Unrequited Sexual Fantasies, When to Compromise and Being Vulnerable

Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy

Cloud10

Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.5 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 29 September 2025

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

Mailbag!! George and Laurie answer questions from the Foreplay Fam in this week’s episode! They’re talking all about unrequited fantasies, compromise, and vulnerability. Sexual fantasies are extremely common; in fact only 4% of men and 14% of women report NOT having fantasies. A listener talks about a fantasy of an old lover and not being able to get it out of her head. While this one may be a block to emotional connection, fantasies can also be mined for good information about what turns us on. And some partners feel comfortable and like sharing their sexual fantasies as a way to grow learn and get aroused with each other. Sexual improvement requires vulnerability and willingness to talk about your sexual needs. Discuss with your partner what they are comfortable with and address any of their concerns. Compromise is important in any relationship. While we want people to feel respected sometimes we might do something for tour partner out of love in order to just make our partner happy. It’s all about communicating these things! Listen to this week’s mailbag episode now to hear more of your questions answered! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Woo! The world is on fire! Let's watch a reality TV show and pretend it's not happening.
0:05.2	That's been my motto for all of 2025.
0:07.8	Hello, my name is Emily, and I am the host of She's Speaking with Emily Hanks,
0:12.8	and I talk about the TV shows that I watch to not feel the pain.
0:18.3	Just kidding. I'm not. If you would like to disconnect and focus on petty, pointless drama,
0:25.1	come check out my podcast. Available everywhere you listen.
0:30.0	Hey, ForPlay fan, this is Dr. Lori. Welcome to Forplay Replay. This is where we bring back some of
0:35.9	our favorite episodes, your favorite
0:38.7	episodes, all to keep sex hot. Let's dive in. The following content is not suitable for children.
0:45.3	The following content is not suitable for children. We've got a mailbag, George. People have been
0:50.2	writing in, and we have not been answering, so let's go. Bring it on, Lori.
0:57.7	Welcome to ForPlay Radio, couples and sex therapy. I'm Lori Watson, your sex therapist.
1:03.5	And I'm George Valley, your couples therapist. And we are passionate about talking about sex
1:08.4	and helping you develop a way to talk to each other.
1:11.7	Our mission is to help our audience develop a healthier relationship to sex that integrates
1:17.9	the mind, the heart, and the body.
1:21.1	So our first question is from a person who says, do you have any tips for stopping fantasy and dreams of an unrequited
1:29.7	lover from your past? It's killing the intimacy with my partner on so many levels because I keep
1:36.4	comparing them to this fantasy. And it was only one time and it was real and it was amazing.
1:42.1	I feel like I can't even talk to my partner about it because I don't want to crush them.
1:46.2	No kidding.
1:47.1	Logically, I know fantasies are always better than reality and my memory is probably making that one time better than it actually was.
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