For the Men! Sex Surrogacy and Coaching

You Are Not Broken

Kelly Casperson, MD

Medicine, Health & Fitness

5 • 743 Ratings

🗓️ 19 September 2021

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Today we welcome Erika Davian – we are both certified at the Life coach school and someone connected us! I had been saying that someone ought to coach the men! And then she showed up in my life! Today we are learning about surrogate partner therapy with her. We need to pay attention to the men too! And we are in this episode! She tells us how she got into this niche. She helps millennial men cultivate the confidence to create the life they want in and out of the bedroom. She helps them show up as themselves. A myth is that “straight men have it so easy” when in fact they have a lot of pressure to “be” a certain way as much if not more than other people. She quickly saw that some clients-- particularly younger clients-- thought their sexual dysfunction was purely physiological, when really, the psychological component was playing as big or an even bigger role. What is a common limiting belief or scenarios that men have about sexuality? “Anxiety and erections are not good bedfellows” “there is one way to please a woman” is very pervasive. “things are problems because we think they are problems” She says - I’ve seen men encounter sexual dysfunction and shame, simply because their mind was sabotaging their body’s ability to perform. Tips for men to start talking to their partner about sex. Tips for premature ejaculation. You help men manage their mind – what are some common themes that you see? You can find her at www.sessionswitherika.com and erikadavian.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to You Are Not Broken, the only podcast that combines science, medicine, and psychology, to re-educate your brain and help you live your best-to-love life.
0:15.5	And I'm your host, Ford Certified Female Urologist, Dr. Casperson.
0:26.0	Thank you. board certified female urologist, Dr. Casperson. All right, everybody, I'm so excited today to welcome Erica Davian.
0:29.9	We're both certified at the Life Coach School and somebody connected us and we're in an
0:33.7	applied coaching curriculum Slack group and somebody connected us. Like we had to meet each other.
0:38.1	So this is how we got to be here today. So thank you so much for being on my podcast.
0:42.9	Absolutely. I'm so glad to be here. I was thinking, you know, I've been saying it for a couple of
0:47.5	months. I tend to coach women, females, about sex. And everybody's like, that's an amazing niche.
0:53.1	There's not enough people doing it,
0:54.3	blah, blah. And I'm like, the real secret is who's going to take on coaching the men?
0:58.3	And so somebody, and so I've been saying that. I'm like, where's the person who's going to coach
1:02.5	the men, right? And here comes, somebody introduced us, which is so cool. Yeah, that person is me. That's so awesome. You have two websites that I want to direct people to,
1:11.7	if that's all right. It's Sessions with Erica.com and then Erica Davian, D-A-V-I-A-N.com are two places that we can
1:18.7	find you afterwards. How did you get into doing what you're doing, coaching men about sex? Tell us your
1:24.5	journey. Yeah, absolutely. So I originally started off with surrogate
1:29.3	partner therapy, which is a little different than coaching. It has to do with working with a
1:35.2	client and their therapist, and it involves hands-on exercises to help someone move through some of the
1:41.6	hang-ups that they've had around intimacy.
1:45.1	And what I found in that work was that it can be really incredible and transformative
1:51.2	for somebody to move through those hands-on exercises.
1:56.0	But at the same time, if they haven't addressed some of the thoughts underlying the issues that they were approaching the work with,
2:06.0	it was very easy for them to perhaps spend thousands of dollars on that treatment, many, many hours in therapy,
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