Hey everybody. You may notice that this is not the normal time we drop episodes and that's because this is not a normal episode of here's what you do.

This is in fact a sort of an addendum to this week's episode because there were some things that we thought needed addressing

sooner rather than later.

We had some feedback about some of our advice last week, incredibly valid feedback, and we thought we should get together and

have a discussion about it before we get to next week's episode.

So to start us off, I think Stephen has something that he has prepared.

Yeah, thanks, Chain. And hey everyone, it's Stephen here.

To make sure that I'm accurately communicating what I want to share with you guys, as well as my

apology.

I actually wrote it down and I'm going to read it to you all first before we open up to discussion.

Before we get into it I would like to take some time first to address my advice from last week's episode and apologize for how it has hurt many of you. I care deeply about each of you and am sorry

for how this has affected you. Last week a listener sent in a question asking

what to do when you are living in a rural area and there is a person in your life

who is racist and homophobic. The question that was asked was particularly

personal to me because I grew up as one of the only Asian Americans in a

predominantly white neighborhood and experienced racism on a daily basis.

Every day I came across people who were prejudiced against me and I was deeply hurt.

I wrestled with how to handle this in a community where these hurtful

behaviors were so normalized. Over time though, I realized that through conversations it became

apparent whether these people were simply ignorant or if they had malicious intent.

Oftentimes I found that it came from an ignorant place and through education and

exposure to different perspectives they eventually shed those ways.

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