Focus On Solving Problems Rather Than Winning Arguments

The Dr. Phil Podcast

Dr. Phil McGraw

Mental Health, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 13.2K Ratings

🗓️ 19 March 2024

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

Pick which issues you think need to be confronted, and leave the others alone. You don’t need to fight a battle just because somebody wants to throw a hoe handle down and fight with you. In this episode, Dr. Phil addresses Principle #2 of his ten principles for a healthy society: "Focus On Solving Problems Rather Than Winning Arguments" from his new book, “We’ve Got Issues: How You Can Stand Strong for America’s Soul and Sanity.” For more information: https://drphilintheblanks.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Why am I choosing to write about this multi-front assault on our society, culture,
0:06.0	families, and very way of life?
0:08.0	Because I see it. I know where it is headed and I refuse to choose to accept it.
0:14.0	The 10 working principles for a healthy society.
0:18.0	How to push back against the social media platform
0:22.0	how to get your family strong again.
0:25.0	You can get it anywhere books or sold on February 27th. The 10 working principles for a healthy society.
0:37.0	Principal number two, focus on solving problems rather than winning arguments.
0:47.0	It's possible to predict the outcome of a marriage, whether or not it's going to divorce, with great accuracy.
0:55.6	And I'm not just saying that because I've got a really good eye for this.
0:59.6	I just have this unique ability to spot things.
1:03.0	There's actually been a fair amount of research done on this
1:08.0	by some really good researchers.
1:11.7	One of those is Dr. Gotman and Dr. Gotman has been researching this for decades
1:18.9	and there's a marriage lab involved, there's all kinds of observation of couples, and longitudinal data has
1:26.6	been collected to determine whether or not the presence of certain characteristics predicted who was going to get a divorce and
1:34.7	who didn't or other characteristics predicted whether somebody was going to get a
1:38.9	divorce or they weren't and across time it's really been narrowed down to certain traits and
1:45.0	characteristics that predict whether you're going to get a divorce or not.
1:48.8	And I'm going to tell you what they are right now and then we're going to talk
1:52.0	about what to do about them.
1:53.8	This has been derived from seven different studies that Dr. Gottman has done and these studies
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