Hello, hello everybody. Welcome back to another episode of Fluently Fixed, where we fix everything in your life from tip to toe, 100% success rate. Don't worry about it. Don't ask anyone for a follow-up. For today's episode, we have three questions that I have picked. And I picked these questions because two of them, for sure, are questions that other people have written in similar vibes of. So I think

this will satisfy a lot of people's questions. The first question is all about limerence. If you guys

don't know what limerance is, it's kind of like when you have this sort of like obsessive

attraction, you're putting someone on a pedestal, you really want to be attached to them,

you can't let go. It's like a crush, but bigger. She writes, hey Shannon, I'm struggling with

limerence. I've been obsessively wanting to take things to the next level with my situation ship of nine

months. After many months of hiding my feelings for him, I told him that it hurts me to possibly

love him and not be able to be together

more than we already are. She talks about how there's a little bit of distance. They live like an hour

away. He owns his own job. He has to work a lot. She says, we were sad to accept that things won't

work out long term, but we decided to keep things casual and just enjoy ourselves. I was heartbroken

and cried for days because he's so lovely and

there's nothing I could fault him for. So I feel better now that we can still see each other,

but I'm anxious about the thought of letting him go completely. Shannon, please help me navigate

this Friends with Benefit situation, et cetera, et cetera. Whenever it comes to a situation

or a Friends with Benefit situation, this is not going to be the answer that you guys want to hear from me, but I think it is better to cut the person off and truly grieve.

Just because even in your message, and I'm only saying this because sometimes a third party can kind of see what you're too close to the situation to say.

You have two sentences in here, right?

Where you're like, we decided to keep things casual and enjoy ourselves.

Next sentence.

I was heartbroken and cried for days.

So are you enjoying what's going on or is there just a deep, deep fear? And I say this with love and very gently,

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