As a young pastor, Ryan thought he was ready to get married, but soon after the wedding, he had a big problem.

When I'm doing counseling, I tell people oftentimes that I had the worst beginning six months of a marriage that I know of,

and so I'm a qualified counselor for them.

And what really began to give me a 180 in my marriage and understanding my role as a husband was just the

ministry of focus on the family. Now, Pastor Ryan points his congregation to all the resources we

provide for families because we're still helping them today. Focus on the family empowers me in my

marriage because I can understand

that other people have gone through the same thing that I'm going through and I'm not alone

in the struggles that I face and my wife and I can gain hope from the stories that are shared

on air. I'm Jim Daly. Help us give families hope today. Donate and your gift will be doubled at

Focus on thefamily.com slash gift.

If you can only find one thing positive to think about your spouse, think about that.

Thank God for that aspect of your spouse and it's an upward spiral. If you

think more positively about your spouse, you're going to begin feeling more positively. You're

speaking from conviction. I'm a little worried. It's the third law. I read about this somewhere.

But it helps.

That's good.

This is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, and that was a moment from a conversation we featured last time on the show.

Our panel consisted of Jim and Gene Daly, and they were joined by our colleagues, Dr. Greg and Aaron Smalley, who head up the marriage team here at Focus on the Family.

Well, it's obvious we were having a great time in the studio, and it's always fun to have Gene join me.

I always feel blessed when she's here with me.

And, of course, having Greg and Aaron in, they're walking in the door every day, trying to do all we can do to help marriages.

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