Good Eve, everybody. Welcome to the show. We got a great show plan for you. We're going to be talking about first date red flags. This is applicable to everybody because as always, whether or not you are dating going on first dates, maybe you are solely solo, meaning someone who doesn't want or step into relationships. Maybe you are married. Maybe you're an exclusive relationship. Maybe

you're poly open. Who knows? But I'm going to always round that topic out for everyone.

Um, but for those that are entering the dating world and going on first dates. And again,

remember this is for everyone, but that's my entry point. You got to go on a lot of dates. And

maybe for listeners, if this doesn't

relate to you as though, although it will, you can maybe apply some of this and then also share

some of it with your friends. But it's a journey, y'all. I remind clients that who are entering

it for the first time after many years, after a breakup, after a marriage, after a widow, getting

widowed. I'd say y'all are signing up for a very chaotic journey, but we can learn a lot about ourselves.

And at this point, we have a lot of really good research as to how to best navigate it to try to make it easier.

But I tell people, put on your helmets, put on your seatbelt, it's going to be a bumpy ride. God, please stow all your things in the overhead cabin and please lock your tray and

put your seat up right because it's going to be bumpy.

It's going to be very bumpy.

It doesn't have to be that way though, which is why I always advocate for everyone trying to make

the relational dating world easier, softer, kinder.

Don't be a part of someone's trauma story. Leave things better off than when you found them, which is what we talk about when someone goes hiking, camping or to the beach.

Leave it better.

Don't leave it worse, which is heartbreaking when I'm hiking or at the beach and I see trash laying all over.

That is our ego.

I also think it's frustrating when I see people get up from a cafe that doesn't have table service

and they just leave their stuff sitting there.

We just don't take responsibility for ourselves

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