Domestic abuse isn't funny, but my show is, Hey Babes, it's me, James, and my stand-up hour.

Sorry, I hurt your son, said my ex to my mum, is playing London at my first ever off West End

venue, Park Theatre in Finsbury Park on Saturday, the 12th of July, and listeners to a gay

and non-gay can grab a discount with the code gay 10 because I love you.

Mu-man-mo-ma-moa. That sounded gross. Book now at James Barcom. I'm also back in Edinburgh this summer

from the 30th of July to the 24th of August. You can grab tickets for both shows at my website,

James Barcom. Love you. Enjoy today's episode.

A gay and a non-gay is a podcast from James Barr and Dan Hudson.

They're like a lovely little couple, except they're not.

First up, thank you to everyone that came to our big gay show in London.

I can't wait for you to hear this episode in a few weeks.

It was chaos, two words, come

bubbles. On to today's episode, and this is going to be one of my favorite episodes in quite

a while, I think. We're joined by singer, drag queen and writer Tom Rasmussen, whose new book

First Comes Love is an exploration of marriage in the 21st century and we both loved it.

Here's the big question. Does getting married make LGBTQ plus people like me normal?

Oh, shudder. Is getting married selling out to the patriarchy and heteronormativity or is it an act of activism? We are answering the big questions

with Tom on this week's podcast and do these gay bumper stickers like love is love and love wins,

do they do the job or should we demand our fucking gay rights, sis? Also, should you tell your

friends if they're getting married and you think it's a mistake asking for a friend

there dan no i'm really really really not and i'm literally about to go to a wedding in that two days

time so i'm really really really not oh my god that's so awkward brilliant

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