Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

I do think no matter how great you've had parenting in your life, that there's an ache inside of all of us.

Now, it could be something minor like a headache or it could be a missing leg, depending on what you've gone through in life. Emotionally. Yeah, in some way. And so I think to come to terms with the fact that there is going to be a part of me, and even for me as a parent, there's going to be a part of my children that I just don't see. That I just don't see.

I'm going to give this 100%, but there's still going to be moments.

Life is still going to have to suck them in.

And in the process of doing that, they may come out wounded.

And this is part of what I thought even when I was a single mother is like, so my job is not to protect them from harm.

I'm going to do the best that I can, but I realize that they are going to have some harm, right?

They're going to school. They're going to be around people and peers and who knows what will

happen in that environment. My role is to show them how to recover from harm. How to heal.

That's so true. I feel like no matter how much we create safety for our kids, there's going to be some

trigger, some wounds, some pain they feel from peers or school or sports or...

Yeah, it's happening.

Whatever they're in, they're going to have something that hurts them.

We can't always protect our kids, but what you just said, teaching them the tools

on how to recover, how to emotionally navigate those feelings, how to express it in a healthier way,

is, I think, our responsibility as parents or as humans, right? Yeah, I think I get on my kids' nerves

because now I'm like, let's look at the feelings. Let's talk about these feelings. One of the things

that I noticed immediately about my husband, Torey, who I've been married to now for seven years, so we're a blended family with six children. You know, when he was parenting his children, if he had a bad day and was like maybe too sharp or too rough, he would apologize to them. And I was like, oh, no, we don't apologize to children.

We don't do that. We just let them get over it. We take them for ice cream. And he was like, no, like, it's okay to apologize to your children. You know, I cannot remember a time when my parents like, apologize to you. This is the way. Right. You do what I say. Right. You go to your room and this is the law.

Absolutely.

And even if I'm wrong, suck it up.

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