Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free

podcast, a support resource for Women of Faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

emotional and spiritual abuse.

Welcome to episode 120 of the Flying Free Podcast. Today we have two

listener questions and we are going to be talking about dating and finding new

love after divorce and how to avoid attracting bad men and how to attract good guys.

So it's going to be an interesting episode. Let's get started with our first question.

Hi Natalie, my name is May. I left my husband about one and a half years ago and I am in the middle of my divorce. about a month

month ago, I am in the middle of my divorce. About a month ago I met a guy on Facebook and we start chatting.

I feel a connection with him, and I thought that I finally met a good guy and I can see the end of my

tunnel but it ends up that it's all being a scam and I lost a lot of money. So my question is this, was it me that I keep attracting

bad guys into my life? Do I need to change myself like being less kind and good so I will stop attracting back guys who want to take advantage of me?

Okay, this is a great question and I actually get this question quite a bit, especially in the

Flying Higher program, which is specifically for divorced Christian women who are rebuilding

their lives. They invested, you know, sometimes

decades of their lives in an abusive relationship and then they spent sometimes

years working on getting out and suffering the loss of their marriage and their

family, friends, church, sometimes their children, their financial security and their marital

home.

Now they'd like to start over and potentially make new friends and possibly even find a healthy

partner to walk through life with.

But they're scared of ending up back in the same mess that they just

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