Hi, I'm Clemy Telford and it's time to get open and get honest.

Each week, I interview a guest about a topic that we as a society often shy away from.

From sex lives to salaries, life and death, religion and real bodies, no subject is off the table. Welcome to Honestly, the podcast.

Welcome to a bonus episode of Honestly podcast. This one is in partnership with Nat West who are

working with the charity's safe lives to raise awareness of financial abuse and also

specifically how banks can help those who are being affected. Financial abuse is insidious and

invisible and can have a truly devastating impact on someone's life. Worse still, it can be hard

to spot and even harder to find a way out of, which is why this campaign is so important.

The sessions were recorded separately to protect the identity of one.

An inspiring brave woman who wishes to remain anonymous told me her story of surviving and

indeed thriving after financial abuse, so much so that she's gone on to become an expert and spokeswoman on the subject.

So I've been working on this project for a few months and it's been a real eye-opener actually

because I guess I was aware of domestic abuse but wasn't a very of this type of abuse

and it appears it's extremely common isn't it?

It's very common and often not recognised until the very end or you're out of the relationship.

Yeah and only on reflection. Yeah. So tell me a bit about your situation. How long you'd been

in the relationship with the person who ended up abusing financially? I was in the relationship for 14 years just under and originally it didn't sort of occur to me that that's what was happening because I saw myself, we'd bought our first house together and to me it was just me doing the homely things.

You know, we were both working.

We both earned the same amount of money.

But I was buying everything for the house and doing the home up,

whereas he had all the excess money to buy himself a nice car

and a nice motorbike and do all the things that he wanted to.

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