Finance F*ckery

Marriage and Martinis

Adam Silverstein

Unknown

4.8 • 1.4K Ratings

🗓️ 21 October 2024

⏱️ 82 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

It has taken over 22 years for Adam and Danielle to be able to have a conversation about the topic of finance without it ending in a fit of rage, resentment, and frustration. For the first time, they can each admit to their mistakes, and the ways they individually and cohesively have contributed to the mistakes they've made, and their negligence concerning preparing for the future. Yes, this is definitely a testament to the progress they've made and the incredible work they've done, but it doesn't change the fact that they'll be feeling the impacts of their poor decisions for years to come. This is a topic that is so seldom discussed by couples in a way that's so public and especially, so honest, that they weren't sure if they should edit some of it out. However, they decided not to touch it. Hopefully, their vulnerability will inspire other couples to have similar conversations, and even learn from Adam and Danielle's mistakes. More specifically, some of the issues they discuss surrounding money and finances in this episode are:

How differently they grew up regarding money and spending.
How being a stay-at-home-mom impacted Danielle's ideas about financial decision making within their family.
The frustration of being the person in charge of buying the daily necessities for the household vs. the frustrations of being the one in charge of paying the bigger bills.
How "keeping up with the joneses" has impacted them, especially regarding raising kids.
How honest should we be with our kids about our financial situation?
What has caused this shift in Danielle's mentality concerning budgeting, and being an active participant in solving their financial issues?
How our past experiences, as well as expectations about spending/money affects our overall mindset about what we need/want/deserve regardless of whether or not we can afford it.

Stay tuned for part two of this topic, in which we delve even further into these issues and so much more!

Please don't forget to Rate and Review on Apple and or Spotify. A five-star rating truly helps us so much and only takes a minute.

Want to have this type of dynamic, gentle, honest conversation with you partner? Purchase the Date Night Questions print version, and use code "MNMPODCAST" for 20% off plus free shipping. Or, download it immediately with the ebook version, and use code "RECONNECT" for 15% off.

Trying to incorporate more gratitude, equity, and understanding into your relationship, use the framework that got Adam and Danielle to the place they are now as a couple, by purchasing the Small Change, Big Impact Challenge, and use code "SCBI15" for 15% off!

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	The ASA regulates UK ads across all media, including radio, to make sure they stick to the rules.
0:08.0	You should be able to trust the ads you hear, whether you love them or hate them.
0:14.0	So we're by your side and keeping our ears open because every little helps.
0:22.0	The ASA, keeping ads legal, decent, honest and truthful.
0:27.0	Oh yes. I want people to understand how difficult a conversation and honest conversation this is to have, right?
0:45.7	Like most podcasts don't touch this shit with a 10 foot pole, they'll just tell you how to do your finances.
0:51.8	We weren't taught this stuff in school growing up,
0:55.1	you know, back in the 80s.
0:57.1	The last thing that I can remember learning
0:59.2	is like how to write a check.
1:01.5	Hey everybody, welcome to Meritinies I'm Adam here is Danielle. Hi. All right so we're
1:07.8	talking about finances in a nice positive way. Like a general, you know, all around experience that we've gone through, like not a,
1:20.0	we're not doing like a fighting episode, we're not doing like we're going to get into it just kind of an overall experiences
1:26.5	We've
1:28.2	Experienced well, yeah, I I also think it might be reflective of where we are in our relationship.
1:36.7	This, you know, we've done finance episodes in the past, from a very different place, from a place from a place of great divide in like the whole financial territory of our lives, you know, you sort of having this one role in it all,
2:01.4	me having another role in it all, and it's not really ever converging on it.
2:08.0	And I think that that great divide just caused so much hostility and resentment and you know and when it came down to it, very unhealthy financial situation.
2:27.0	Yeah, look, in the past we've done episodes like you just said,
2:30.3	about the divide, about blame, about, you know, faults, all those things.
2:35.0	Then we did a episode with the How to Money Guys
2:39.0	a while back.
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Adam Silverstein, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Adam Silverstein and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.