Hi, this is Janet Lansfrey. Welcome to Unruffled. Well, today I'm going to be talking about kids fighting with

each other. Specifically, I'm going to be talking about siblings because that's the question that I received,

but everything I'm going to be sharing today also applies to play with peers,

play in mixed age groups, any kind of play that children are experiencing together.

I recently did an episode that was a little more focused on peer play conflicts.

In this episode, I'm also going to share from Jonathan

Hates book, The Anxious Generation, which I know a lot of you probably read. It's been a popular

book. I'm actually just finishing it now. I'm a little late to these things sometimes.

But he talks about the importance of kids learning through play.

Now, as a parent though, when your two kids seem to be fighting all the time,

or maybe you have more kids and they're all fighting more than they're playing contentedly,

that can be really, really frustrating.

And that's what this parent's feeling that reached out to me. So I want to

try to help her specifically, give her some guidance. And then I have this backup from these other

sources that I hope will help this parent to trust her instincts more. Not all of her instincts,

not the fear-based ones, but I'm going to help her see the

difference, I hope, and get some perspective on what's getting in her way and what she can do

to help going forward. All right, here's the note that she wrote to me in, I believe it was

an Instagram message. Hi, Janet.

Thank you for all of your help.

I've listened to all of your podcasts on siblings.

There's one dynamic I haven't found an answer to.

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