Here's some of what we heard yesterday on Revive Our Hearts from Joy and Mark McLean and their three children.

Our wedding day was in May.

It was a beautiful May day.

And as I said those vows, I meant them.

They were something I was going to take very seriously.

And I was going to honor them no matter what.

And that evening, I wrote in my journal, today I took a vow to love and honor my husband,

and that's just what I intend on doing no matter what.

I had always known Mark to drink more of a social type thing.

Then after we were married, it just started to become an everyday thing.

So it was pretty miserable from the time dad came home until he fell asleep.

I just remember laying in bed and hearing, mainly my dad yelling.

Saying things to my mom that should never be said to a lady.

As the kids got older, so did the intensity in the home.

The chaos increased.

I didn't know what he was capable of doing to us.

Because he had moved from anger to the walls, to the doors,

to slamming whatever or throwing something,

he wants to hurt me.

And he's making threats.

Drunkenness is a little more difficult to hide.

Yet my heart was evil.

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