Fault Finder: Relationship Reality Check Pt5

The Dr. Phil Podcast

Dr. Phil McGraw

Mental Health, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 12 September 2023

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Dr. Phil discusses the concept of the "bad spirit" that can ruin a relationship. He describes characteristics of the bad spirit, including being a scorekeeper, fault finder, believing it's your way or the highway, turning into an attack dog, being a passive warmonger, and giving up on the relationship. These behaviors do not contribute to a healthy relationship and can cause harm. Learn how to examine your own behavior and make changes to rid yourself of the bad spirit, which can lead to a substantial improvement in the relationship. Dr. Phil stresses how it is important to focus on p For more information: https://drphilintheblanks.com Advertise with us! https://www.advertisecast.com/PhilintheBlanks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	We always talk about pickup lines. Is there a better way to approach it than another?
0:04.8	When people start using these corny cheesy things, the what's your sign and the sort of nagging
0:09.4	approach. Some guys do this where they try to lower a woman's self-esteem relative to there,
0:13.5	thinking that that's gonna make her more likely to say yes. Those things don't work. They're
0:17.1	universally rated as being very poor pickup lines and it's just the simple approach. The high
0:22.5	hello showing interest and then also a compliment saying something nice about the other person.
0:34.4	Hey, it's Dr. Phil. This is Relationship Reality Check. Last week we were talking about sex.
0:42.4	Yep, we got sexy last week. We talked about fantasies. We talked about porn. We talked about sex
0:49.0	toys. We talked about all the kind of things that you just don't talk about in the polite
0:53.2	society. So if you miss that one, you want to listen to it because it can be very freeing if you
0:59.7	give yourself permission to talk about those things. But now we're back to talking about real
1:05.2	intimacy. And what I'm gonna ask you to do today is some serious self-examination looking for
1:13.1	something that resides within every one of us. And it's what I call your bad spirit,
1:20.8	the bad spirit that resides within every one of us. So what do I mean by bad spirit?
1:29.5	We talked about myths, right? You remember we went through the myth-busting which I said I love
1:34.5	so much when we can blow up things that people have been laboring under for so long?
1:40.7	That's one way you can really poison your relationship. But there are other ways you can do it.
1:45.1	Today I'm talking about one of the biggest ways you can ruin your relationship. And that is when
1:51.5	something I call your bad spirit takes over. Now first off, let me tell you what brings out what
1:58.2	I call your bad spirit in a relationship. Everything you do with somebody you care about
2:07.0	is magnified. The gravity is increased. The power of those interactions take on a whole different
2:16.4	moment to them. They take on so much more leverage to get you feeling one way or another.
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