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Alright, let's cut to it. Jason, take it away.

Dear Jordan, this is a pretty basic one that I'm sure you get all the time.

What do I do when my girlfriend starts complaining about something?

I never really know what to say. So I just kind of stand there slack,

John, and I feel like I'm not doing it right. Suggestions, signed, bewildered boy.

I love these new nicknames. This is kind of an easy one, depending on what we're talking about.

If she's complaining about something in your relationship, you need to set aside time, talk about it,

figure out what's going on, what's actually making her upset. Is it something that you can and should

change? There's a lot there. But I'm going to, for purposes of this question, assume that you

mean she's venting about they didn't have enough catch up packets at lunch or, you know, that girl

at work is trying to ruin your life, whatever. I mean, that's that's the type of thing I think we're

talking about or just even a regular gripe like the kind of thing that you and I would vent about.

And here's the big secret that most guys don't know. A lot of times people, especially women,

don't really want you to give them advice or solve their problems for them. They often just

want you to listen to what they had to say. They want someone to talk to, they want to vent about

the problem that they're running into. So you can nod your head thoughtfully, repeat back a lot of

what she's saying, showing that you actually understand, show a little bit of sympathy, tell her

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