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Dear Jordan, I'm a man with a lot of bad habits who starting to realize that they're holding me back.

I smoke a lot, I drink a lot, and it's literally what's holding me back in my dating life and my personal life.

What do you recommend I do to change things?

Signed beginning to see the light.

Ah, right on. I like that. I like these nicknames that we're getting and slash giving people now as well.

First of all, we don't really know that this is what's holding you back in your dating life and your personal life from this letter.

So I'm going to let it go, assuming you've gotten feedback from people at work, from people that you're dating that they don't want to date smokers or drinkers, etc.

But I think your question kind of answers itself.

You know you need to start making changes, perhaps even drastic changes to your life and to your lifestyle.

And first, I think it's important to not just get rid of unhealthy parts of your lifestyle, but also find healthy ways to live your life to replace what really are just bad habits.

It's harder to get rid of habits than to replace them.

So for my money, there are a few things better for you than regular exercise, lots of water.

And beyond that, you might consider seeing a counselor about your drinking if it's really a problematic thing that you rely on.

At all that said, I think moderation is key.

There's nothing wrong having a few beers here and there, a few drinks here and there.

There's not even anything wrong with, and I know I'm going to get flack for this, getting really drunk from time to time,

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