No one should ever sacrifice their own well-being to maintain a psychologically devastating relationship.

No one should ever sacrifice their own well-being to maintain a psychologically devastating relationship.

So the final option for reconciliation is not having a direct relationship with a person,

but being able to find resolution inside yourself. This can be the best choice,

you know, if the other person suffers from mental illness, if they're an addict or they're violent

or toxic, then reconciliation becomes an inside job. And you shouldn't see this as a failure.

When I started studying this topic, I used to think that the opposite of astrangement was

reconciliation, but it actually, the opposite is peace. Like, what do we have to do to get to a place

of peace with the reality of this relationship?

Welcome to Therapist Uncensored. Building on decades of professional experience,

this podcast tackles neurobiology, modern attachment, and more, in an honest way that's

helpful in healing humans. Your session begins now with Dr. Anne Kelly and Sue Marriott.

Hi everyone, this is Anne. Alright, so let's start stepping into today's episode.

If you've been around a while, you surely remember the book The Courage to Heal.

It was published probably around 30 years ago, and it was one of the first books

to talk about healing from childhood sexual abuse. So in essence, it led to one of the

first Me Too movements, where other survivors of sexual abuse began to feel more comfortable

coming forward and came out about their own abuse, really, in droves. In today's episode,

Sue Marriott catches up with Courage to Heal, co-author Laura Davis. Together, they deep dive into

some of the surprises in her latest book The Dying Light of Two Stars. They discuss the powerful

insights that Laura had in her own healing journey, everything from the unreliability of memory

to the realistic nature of what can happen when families have been divided and they start to

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