Welcome beloved nurturers, hop on. Today we're going to Iowa City, Iowa to meet a family

of five. Mom coached high school cheerleaders for 15 years. She says, I'm used to silky

teenagers, but a lot of good that's doing her now. We'll hear why, what happens on the

fifth day of fire camp and how dishes left in the sink have emotional superpowers. At

the end of this episode, you'll learn an untranslatable word that explains what motivates

children to do chores and a word in tie that describes reluctance to ask a friend to

help you move. First, a disclaimer. What you are about to listen to is not a professional

counseling session. Each episode is a one time conversation and the advice I offer does

not constitute psychological treatment or services substitute for professional diagnosis,

intervention or behavioral health care. In order to protect their privacy, our guests

have been given pseudonyms and some personal details have been changed. If you have concerns

about your child's well-being or your own, seek out guidance from a medical or mental

health professional. Good places to start, your child's pediatrician, the counseling

staff at your child's school and the American Psychological Association's Comprehensive

Guide to Finding Resources in your State. And now, onto the fun.

Hi, hi, welcome and thank you so much for joining me today. What I know is that Marie,

you are a middle school math teacher and when you're a superintendent of a school district,

you have 15-year-old Dean who is in 10th grade, 14-year-old Christine who's in 8th grade

and Anne is 10 and she's in 4th grade. Do I have it right? Yes, that's right. You sure

do. Okay, start me anywhere. What would you like to talk about today? One thing that immediately

comes to mind is that you work with children approximately the same age as the ones you see when

you walk through the door at home. Yes. How does that go? How's that working out for you?

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