Hello, beloved nurturers. Today we'll meet parents of a nine-year-old, a four-year-old,

and a two-year-old. Mom's an immigration attorney and an only child. Dad's a marketing analyst

whose parents had an arranged marriage. They share specific well-articulated worries

about each of their children. The oldest has ups and downs, cries a lot, and complains

about aches and pains that his parents say we're not sure are real. They wonder, have

we messed him up beyond repair? And is the middle one socially behind? Her teacher told us she's

not a leader and not yet ready for kindergarten. And the baby is a reckless monster, but the

time he's 17 he could be a crazy, a mess using drugs in a deep hole. They also branched

there worrying out to general concerns. How much respect should we demand? How much sibling

fighting is healthy? How can we model excellence without making the children too competitive?

At the end of the episode, we'll learn two words that made me smile the moment I encountered them.

A Dutch word for a love language we all have with ourselves, and a Chinese term about the depth

of friendship between peers of women. First, a disclaimer. What you are about to listen to

is not a professional counseling session. Each episode is a one-time conversation and the advice

I offer does not constitute psychological treatment or services substitute for professional

diagnosis, intervention, or behavioral health care. In order to protect their privacy,

our guests have been given pseudonyms and some personal details have been changed. If you have

concerns about your child's well-being or your own, seek out guidance from a medical or mental

health professional. Good places to start, your child's pediatrician, the counseling staff at

your child's school, and the American Psychological Association's comprehensive guide

to finding resources in your state. And now, onto the fun.

We got this. We got this. We got this. We got this.

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