So recently I made a post on Instagram about how you as a man, your capacity to rely on yourself as a man, as a father, as a husband, as a business leader, is directly

correlated to your ability to face your fears. And I got a number of men reaching out to me saying,

hey, can you go into that on a mini episode? And so I thought I would just extrapolate on a little

bit and explain the importance of it. So here's the quote. A man's ability to face his fears is directly connected

to how reliable he believes himself to be. His willingness to face his fear of failure,

of intimacy, of closeness, responsibility, death, or fatherhood. All of these things shape how

potent and sovereign he will view himself to be. So here's the deal.

When we avoid the things that we are afraid of, right? When you avoid the hard conversation,

your relationship, you know, the honesty of telling your partner that there's something

that you're dissatisfied with, when you avoid being able to bring forward a need or a want within a relationship because

you fear rejection from your partner or you know you don't speak up in a meeting at work

because you're afraid to fail you're afraid to get it wrong you need to be perfect that avoidance

teaches you as an individual that you cannot rely on yourself to enter into hard

territory and there's a certain quality of reliability there's a certain depth of reliability

that only comes along that only shows up psychologically and emotionally when we are willing to face

the hard aspects of life, when we are willing to face our fears, when we are willing to navigate

the territory and the realm of the things that we are afraid of. And the strongest men, the most successful, grounded, trustworthy men that I have ever

met in my life are the men who are willing to say, I'm afraid, I'm scared of doing that,

of saying that, and then they press forward anyway. They are the men who don't blind themselves from their

fear, from what they are scared of. It's a very natural thing to be afraid. Our bodies, our brains

are literally designed to keep us safe. And so they're constantly looking out for things that

we should fear, things that we should avoid in

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