Extra-Virgin (Like Olive Oil)
Hot and Bothered
Not Sorry Productions
0.0 • 0 Ratings
🗓️ 19 November 2019
⏱️ 43 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
This week, Vanessa’s friend, Liz, writes on the “Widowed Virgin” trope, telling the story of a Jewish widow who finds sexual awakening after her husband’s death. Vanessa reflects on her own Jewish upbringing, and confronts the familial urge to marry within the religion.
Vanessa, whose partner is non-Jewish and German, examines what it means to love someone outside of the community she was raised in. She turns to her brother, who married a wonderful Jewish woman, to discuss how important it really is to marry within your own religion. Vanessa comes to terms with her own happy ending as Liz writes an HEA for the widowed virgin of her story.
We also get our next writing assignment from #1 New York Times best-selling author of the Bridgerton series, Julia Quinn.
Next week: More love advice and a conversation with Lauren Sandler.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | Spoke Media. Not Sorry Productions. |
| 0:07.0 | Very few things were drilled into me as a child as well as you have to marry a Jew. |
| 0:18.0 | I took the stereotypical journey on this family rule. First I accepted it as gospel. I wasn't even |
| 0:26.2 | sure that I knew any non-Jus and I had no idea why on earth I would ever marry |
| 0:32.0 | one. Then of course I began to question the merits of this 11th |
| 0:37.3 | commandment. Around the time I was about Mitsfed, I asked my grandfather why it was so important that I marry a Jew. He said |
| 0:47.1 | because one day you will be in a fight with your husband and he will call you a dirty Jew and you will never be able to |
| 0:57.7 | forget that. There were other arguments for only Jew-un-ju marriage bandied about by all of the adults in my life. |
| 1:07.1 | No one will understand you as well as a fellow Jew. |
| 1:10.1 | It will just be easier for you, and we want an easy life for you. |
| 1:15.0 | Hitler killed six million of us so we need to make more Jewish babies. |
| 1:33.1 | Questions around race, ethnicity, religion, and assimilation are at the center of our laws, histories, and culture, but they are also the center of our romantic lives. |
| 1:36.4 | Who you spend your life with |
| 1:38.3 | is the greatest political act of your life. |
| 1:42.2 | It will greatly determine your socioeconomic status, your |
| 1:46.0 | religious life, where you live, your health. And also on the nights that you're having dinner just the two of you or holding each other in grief or celebrating in joy, |
| 1:59.0 | who the hell cares what they are? |
| 2:02.0 | And my life partner is super not a Jew. I'm |
| 2:07.6 | Vanessa Zoltan and this is hot and bothered. Our writer this week is Liz Eichlaman. She graduated from Harvard Divinity |
| 2:26.7 | School just a little bit after I did and now works at a Hilllle at a prestigious |
| 2:31.2 | college. She picked the trope, Virgin Widow. |
| 2:35.0 | I picked it because I was so excited to hear that that was a trope. |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Not Sorry Productions, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Not Sorry Productions and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2026.