Expectations are Everything
Fierce Marriage
Ryan and Selena Frederick
4.9 • 4.3K Ratings
🗓️ 23 June 2020
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
Expectations are constantly at work in every marriage. The question is whether or not we're aware of them and in agreement on what they should be. In this episode we posed dozens of questions for listener consideration about expectations in sex, money, communication, in-laws, hobbies, divisions of chores/labor, church, and more.
While this episode will be particularly helpful for our nearly- and newlywed listeners, couples of all stages of marriage are sure to learn something about themselves. We hope it blesses you!
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| 0:00.0 | So many couples spend more time planning for a vacation than they've spent planning for their entire life as a married person, as married people. |
| 0:09.2 | We are guilty of that. |
| 0:10.6 | We are guilty of that. |
| 0:11.8 | We were just trying to plan a little vacation here. |
| 0:14.2 | And we realized how much we don't plan for our marriage. |
| 0:18.4 | Yeah. |
| 0:18.8 | And I think. |
| 0:19.1 | No, we do, though. |
| 0:20.1 | We have those moments. And looking back, we only had a couple of, I I think, well. We do, though. We have those moments. |
| 0:21.3 | And looking back, we only had a couple of, I would say, premarital counseling sessions, |
| 0:25.5 | but it was basically just meetings with our youth pastor and the youth pastor's wife. |
| 0:30.4 | And well, they were not just youth pastors, but they were like lay pastures in our truth. |
| 0:35.0 | But it wasn't planning for the, it wasn't anything like what we've come to appreciate |
| 0:40.8 | in terms of planning. |
| 0:42.5 | I would have wanted a pair of us. |
| 0:45.1 | That's vain. |
| 0:46.9 | I'm not trying to sound vain. |
| 0:48.5 | Somebody like us. |
| 0:50.8 | Oh, my goodness. |
| 0:51.7 | No, I would want somebody who would ask hard questions that would say, hey, what have you thought about this? Have you guys talked about these? These things. Like, there are some things that were never brought to our attention. I think people just thought we'd figure it out, which we do. But sometimes I think there's wisdom, right, to be had. Yes. I didn't mean us. |
| 1:11.3 | I wish there was a podcast. Okay, I get it. All right, all right. You backpedaled yourself out of that one. It's fine. I wasn't trying to be vain. I really just... It's okay. So, this episode is those hard questions. Literally, we're going to go through a whole list of hard. A little hard questions, but they're, I think, incisive questions that help you get to the root expectations that you're bringing in. This isn't just for newlyweds, okay? It's not for just nearlyweds, engaged people, newlywed people. This is for anyone who's never visited these types of questions, and you might be wondering why you're misfiring in your marriage because frankly |
| 1:44.5 | you might have expectations that aren't aligned and you haven't realized it yet so expectations are |
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