Everything You’re Doing Wrong In Dating with Damona Hoffman
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 17 August 2021
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
Damona Hoffman is the Host of the podcast Dates & Mates, the official Dating Coach for OkCupid, a Love Expert on The Drew Barrymore Show, an Advice Columnist and more. Damona joins us to discuss the way dating has changed overtime, how we give dating apps too much power, why having a phone call before a date can be a game changer, what exclusivity really means and how to know if you’re exclusive with someone, and what happens if you actually express what you want.
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| 0:00.0 | Your first great love story is free when you sign up for a free 30-day trial at audible.co. |
| 0:05.5 | com.uk-Uk slash Wondery. That's audible.combe. This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation. |
| 0:18.0 | Hey guys, it's Alana and welcome back for another episode of seeing other people. |
| 0:23.3 | Today we have the wonderful, the fabulous, the brilliant, Demona Hoffman as our guest. |
| 0:29.9 | Demona is absolutely amazing. |
| 0:32.3 | I think she is one of the most talented, successful people in the dating world. |
| 0:39.6 | She is the dating coach for OKCupid. |
| 0:46.3 | She has been doing her podcast dates and mates for nine years now. That is nine whole years of seeing the dating world as we know it today unfold. She is a love expert on the Drew Barrymore |
| 0:51.9 | show. She is an advice columnist for the LA Times. She has another column in the Washington Post. She is a love expert on the Drew Barrymore show. She is an advice columnist for the LA Times. |
| 0:55.1 | She has another column in the Washington Post. |
| 0:57.5 | She is absolutely incredible. |
| 0:59.7 | And it's funny, we were going to talk about exclusivity and labels specifically on this |
| 1:04.4 | episode. |
| 1:04.7 | But as soon as she and I started talking, like the conversation just ran with a million |
| 1:09.8 | different nuggets of absolute wisdom. And I was like, |
| 1:14.9 | screw it. This is so much better and so much more important, everything that we're talking about |
| 1:18.5 | and everything that she has to share. So, DeMona is going to talk to us about different things with |
| 1:23.6 | dating apps and sending the first message. and if that first message has to actually |
| 1:27.8 | say something of substance or if it can be something witty or if it has to be a question, |
| 1:34.7 | she has a really great formula for a first message so that you can feel confident in sending |
| 1:38.8 | those first messages. We talk about a little bit about what being exclusive really means. And if you can ever assume that |
| 1:46.3 | you're exclusive with somebody or if you really need to have that conversation, we talk about |
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